Jul 1

There’s nothing quite like a weekend with John DeMartini to shake up your perception of the world! As I’ve said in the past that your perception shapes the world and this was one of the core ‘knowings’ that John has.

One of the biggest things that I personally took away from the weekend was that I now appreciate more than ever those people who’ve hurt me, pissed me off or challenged me because it’s through them that I’ve grown the most! I used to often tread on egg shells trying to protect peoples but in many ways that is probably one of the most detrimental things I can do, not only to myself but to others too!

Another I thing I learned well was to not to subhordinate to or think of myself above anyone. As soon as you do you negate yourself or negate them instead of that owning all the traits you see. Whether you percieve them to be negtive or positive, you have those traits, take ownership of them as you also have them and be grateful for them because whether you realise it or not they have served you. Ask yourself where they have served you and feel gratitude; say ‘thank you’!

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Nov 1

How to tell a friend you love them…How to ease your heartbreak.

For many Love = Friendship. So being in love with a very close friend leads to the next logical step of forming an intimate relationship.

I would love to be able to address this article at everyone but I think given the nature of the topic I think it would be difficult to do so although that doesn’t mean that not everyone can learn something from it. This is probably one of the most challenging and long articles I’ve ever decided to write simply because of the nature of the topic and the undefined way in which situations like this can be handled.

So firstly guys, my question to you: Have you ever been in love with or fallen in love with a friend only for them to turn around and reject you? Their answers might range from, “I see you just as a friend” or “I don’t feel that way about you.”

For many young men events like this can be both heartbreaking and soul destroying. I have been in that situation many times and even recently was in that same situation. I’ve heard so many stories where one party loves the other but the feelings weren’t returned. The truth is that situations like that are common and the first challenge is whether or not to act on your feelings. That in itself is a big challenge! For most guys, at the best of times, the decision of whether or not to go ahead and speak to a girl about their feelings is tough enough as it is. Firstly, you’re friends with this woman and it’s something you might value deeply. With that in mind you become faced with difficult choice: 1) Tell her and it could go either way. She will either feel the same about your or not and in which case the decision to tell her may permanently harm the friendship. 2) Don’t tell her and never find out how she felt about you. The element of regret can leave a lasting sting.

As I said earlier I can’t really speak from the perspective of what it must be like on the flip side for the woman in both ways, i.e. being on the receiving end but also being in the same situation and being in love with a friend! I’ve been in that situation more than once and a number of people have said to me that I fall in love to easily, it’s probably true, but I have a very loving nature towards all my closest friends and I do get attached quite easily. But in response to that attraction is such a natural thing and should never be frowned upon. I’m fortunate to have many close female friends who are have amazingly loving and good natured personalities as well as being beautiful. So naturally if I feel that the girl and I have a great friendship and in addition to that I find her attractive it seems like only natural to me that the next step would be to be honest with her and find out how she feels too. I know, I know, I make it sound easy I know but it’s where the rocky road begins.

Before I go any further guys, I don’t have all the answers, my sole intention with this article it to make that challenge just that little bit easier to handle. There is no dichotomy of a right or wrong way to handle this. You do however have to make a choice while taking into the consideration the feelings of the person you wish to tell and be understanding towards them. I’ve seen some guys totally undermine the womans feelings because they allowed their own hurt to saturate them and become totally oblivious to the females needs and end up leaving them hurt, lost, and a feeling that they’ve been abandoned by a friend.

So lets begin…

1) First and foremost, it’s time for me to be a bit brutal! Guys, don’t be such babies! This woman who you’re in love with isn’t the only woman you’re ever gonna love and if she doesn’t love you back it truly isn’t the end of the world! I know I’ve started off harshly but you have to accept this fact if you’re to stand a chance in making this thing work. React aggressively or childishly to her or her answer and you will end up blowing it for good! So first and foremost, before you do anything, give yourself a pep talk, if you’re too distracted get a friend you can confide in, tell them the situation and get them to give you a pep talk! Keep on telling yourself that no matter how this ends up, the most important thing is her, be understanding and compassionate towards her!

2) Make sure you plan a time and place to tell her properley! A time when you’re both alone, absolutely no distractions, just you and her, somewhere quiet where you can talk in your normal voice and can have good eye contact! Avoid doing it in a restaurant, at a club or anything like that, do it if you’re having a quiet meal at home and or watching a movie. Turn off the movie, finish your food and begin. Make sure you have nothing in your teeth though! :lol: For heavens sake, don’t do this over email, phone or text messages! If you do any slight misunderstanding could screw things up for good! It’s vitally important that she sees your body language and that you see hers!

3) When you get to that stage when you’re ready to tell her, don’t blurt out what you want to say, it might be a good idea to reassure her how much she means to you; that you will always be there for her and that you value your friendship highly! Once you’ve reassured her and made her feel at ease, it’s time tell her! Be honest and straight forward. Don’t try and tell her in a way which is indirect, it doesn’t serve you and you may not end up getting a straight answer which might leave you more confused then when you initially began down this path!

I can’t tell you what to tell her, that’s got to come from your own heart and soul, all I can do is put you in a better mental state in preparation for this big event!

4) Once you told her reassure her again! This is vitally important! Explain to her how much she means to you and that nomatter what she says that you will be there for her. If she feels the same way, then you need not read further! :-D If however she does not feel the same way about you it’s time to offer her some time. At this point, make you sure you gather yourself, this is a time where you might waffle something you didn’t mean to. Take a moment! Ask her if she would prefer it if you were to give her some room for a set period of time, e.g. a couple of weeks. Listen to her, acknowledge what she says, and respect her wishes!

5) Don’t run away because you’re upset!! Let the evening come to a close naturally and when it’s your time to go make sure you leave with a smile, again reassuring her! Once you’ve left, the heartache will really kick in! That being the case it would be worth having your pep talk friend on standby! Get them to accompany you somewhere! Go for some drinks, make sure you have someone there you can talk too! Despite what any macho guys might be thinking right about now, nope, strip joints and lap dancers aren’t going to ease your pain! Feel free to go do it if you want but it really won’t help or change the way you feel!

6) As tough as it might be for you to be around her, stick with her! If it gets to the point where your health is suffering then be honest with her. Don’t blame her, but do tell her honestly that you’re finding it tough. She will more than likely be understanding and compassionate towards you. Maybe explain to her that you need a bit of time away again reassuring her how much her friendship means to you! Take your time out but keep in touch with her, let her know that you’re thinking about her and are not just wrapped up in your own feelings. Do whatever you need to do during that time, but keep yourself occupied, don’t close yourself off from people, it’s people who will help you get through this challenging time!

Trust me guys, I’ve been there before, many a times! It’s even been a case where me and a friend have been in love with the same woman, in which case I’ve always yielded and in fact, I will do whatever I can to make help and support them getting together. It’s not easy but it’s because their friendship and my love for them has and will always be of paramount importance to me! If I had the choice of my happiness over my friend then my friend would win everytime hands down!

If you don’t have someone to talk to, you have me! You can get in touch with me if you wish. Whatever happens don’t bottle it up and even though times like this can be scary and painful there are other people out there who’ve been through it too and can help you. I hope in some way I’ve been of help in giving you chance in telling the person you love how you feel, whilst at the same time, keeping a close friend!

I wish you success with your friend, your potential future lover, I sincerely hope it goes well! :-)

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Oct 1

My heart is sensitive and romantic and I believe that everyone in this world has that one special soul who they connect with. However recently, life has illuminated the reality of love, and essentially compartmentalised it into a ‘black and white’ order. I have been granted a brief look into the eyes of others around me, who see love as the manifestation of hormones, lust and desire. Where love has nothing to do with your heart or higher self’s purpose, but more of an indication of what other parts of the body are pulling you to do. The stark realisation of this fact aggrieves me; even though I have known it for years and am no stranger to its concept, I never the less find it a difficult and painful awareness to accept.

Have we as humans become so disconnected that even love has lost its mysterious potency? It has been handed over to our bodies and we are but slaves to its satisfaction.

The more I cling onto the thought that love is a beautiful, transformative, uplifting journey for your soul, the more I am forced to witness its corrupt expression.

However being a firm believer in the teachings of Abraham, I know that my thoughts are the powerful engines which shape my reality, therefore I understand that this moment in time serves me well to uphold my firm beliefs in love and what I REALLY want from the love of another.

Why should I bow down to an unnatural concept when my heart craves to experience the power of my creator through the love of another soul. Do I compromise my hearts calling for the sake of conforming to a lifestyle that is accepted by everyone else around me?

As I transmit my intention of love to others I am consistently made to feel guilty for asking for a love that is innocent and sweet, looked upon as though I have a warped, archaic perception of love. Have I always been the human dreaming of being the butterfly, who is now lost in the psychosis?

As you can see, my internal battle and quest to eliminate this loneliness brings pain, doubt and fear. However even though the world around me adopts such a view, I wish to live in my fantasy and hold on to my concept that this person who I fall in love with, will also have the view that love is a soul connection, and not just the result of chemicals and hormones surging around the body.

If this view is indeed a result of years of misconstrued understanding where the barrier between the dream world and real world has been breached, then I wish to allow this to grow within me. It gives me ‘hope’ and paints a picture of a world I ‘choose’ to live in, albeit a reverie.

So with this in mind, I allow the tears in my heart to dry and hold firm my views in the face of harsh truth and with god’s grace breathe in life and wait for the day when my fairy tale romance becomes my reality. I wish to be saturated in its magic, to bathe in its sweet aroma and to taste its intoxicating essence upon my lips!

Follow your dreams in the face of adversity – no matter what the cost!

Peace and Blessings – From a slightly broken heart, but i know i will heal! Kavi xxx

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Sep 10

Woooohooooo! :-D

The 100 day mark has arrived. For me this is a true milestone. When I first began this “100 days…” project it just started out as a little idea to keep me blogging regularly. Now I can see that it has the potential to go much further, who knows what else I can achieve with this idea. It’s just the beginning and I know it will go much further. Very shortly I will be begin a new “100 days…” project and it will have a slightly different theme. One thing is for sure, I’d like to make it more challenging for myself.

Throughout this wonderful journey, I’ve leanred many new and exciting things. Each day has brought with it a new adventure and a new understanding in how to live a more purposeful, spiritual life. Spirituality is everything that we do and if you can do it with a spiritual mindset, you will love every moment of life, no matter how challenging it maybe!

Always keep the relativity paradox in mind, you cannot know happiness without sorrow, you cannot know love without fear, you cannot know light without darkness. These things were created to so that we might know what it means to be loved and what it means to recieve it. We enjoy that feeling because we know it’s counterpart!

There are 10 things I want to share that will ehance the quality of your life, remember and use these 10 things and I promise that you will life will be more happy, enjoyable and fulfilled!!

1) Have fun with life! Don’t let your first response to people be about how stressed out or how depressed you are or about how busy you are. Always start you interactions on a positive note. If during your interaction you need to talk about your challenges then do so, then finish where you started, on a happy and light note, sharing what you’ve learned through that encounter, or just share a joke!

2) Challenges don’t disappear, they change form. Notice I say challenges and not problems. Problems are barriers, challenges are hurdles, hurdles can be leapt, it takes a leap of faith. Barries need to be broken down and take much more energy! It may appear to you that other people don’t face challenges, or that their challenges are not as challenging as the ones you face. That’s your own mind creating a story to hold you back from being where it is you want to be. Running away will not take away your challenges, changing jobs because you have a horrible boss won’t take your challenges away, they will change form. When challenges arise, face them head on!

3) Whatever your religious or spiritual beliefs, don’t hold so tightly to them so to you nothing else is true. Keep and open mind and listen to others when they share. Everyone’s point is valid and there is truth in every way of thinking as it all comes down to perception! There’s no need to challenge anyone else’s beliefs either, respect them, appreciate them, and share yours with spiritual pride. Views are not there to be converted, they’re there to be enjoyed and appreciated.

4) Our childrens education is not just dependent on the teachers. I consider every single child on this planet as my children and I make it my responsibility to educate them. Education doesn’t necessarily have to be of an academic nature, in fact, most often that’s not real education. Real education comes from what children see us do and then, in turn, emulate. Whether we like it or not, we have a responsibility to them as they will always follow our actions. They will adopt our attitudes and they will look to our actions to shed light where for them, there is none. Make it your responsibility to educate every child on this planet. The more we educate them, they more they will be prepared to deal with the challenges they will inevitably face.

5) Learn NLP! NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) has some pretty impressive, no nonsense, tools that you can use for improving your life. It will be one the best investments of your time and money that you can make. You don’t have to become an expert, even learning the basics from any “off the shelf book” and acquiring a basic understanding will improve the quality of your life and your relationships. It will enhance your skills no matter what profession you’re in, whether you’re a house husband, a lawyer, a high powered business woman, it will benefit you!

6) Even if your life is going amazingly well, get a Life Coach! I’m not being biased in this because I am one! :P In fact, when you’re life is going amazing is the best time to get one because they will be able work with you to enhance your performance! If your life isn’t going so great, get one and you’ll be amazed at the results. They don’t perform magic, they just know how to ellicit the best from people!

7) I’ve said it before many times and I’ll say it again! Follow the 5 a day rule! Make sure that you incorporate these 5 things into your day, every day! 1) Meditate, 2) Smile, 3) Laugh, 4) Give, 5) Appreciate! They don’t have to follow any particular order but if I were to say one was mandatory, it would number 5, to appreciate and have gratitude for everything in your life! If you can do that one consistently and regularly then the other 4 will pretty much come naturally!

8 ) If you’re not sure what to do with your life the sure fire way of getting out of that rut is to put yourself out there and try different things. Watching Eastenders, even at the best of times, isn’t going to improve the quality of your life. What will is being social, interactive and experimenting with various activities like a sport or doing some charity work! Activities like that will enhance your focus and give you some clearer purpose and direction. The rule of thumb is to do something that completely takes you away from what you would normally do. If you’re normally on a computer or games console, then get out there and try a new sport or go speed dating! Anything that challenges who you are is worth trying once!

9) So often these days the first thing a person will tell me about is how tired they are! I’m no doc but one of the main reasons why people get so tired is because we’re so used to cars and junk food and living a lazy lifestyle it’s no surprise that lethargy sets in. We’re no longer use to physical exertion! When you feel tired is the precise moment you should get up and do some physical activity, push your body beyond what it’s used to and soon you’ll start feeling less tired! Another reason it lack of “good quality” sleep. Even if you’re consuming small amounts of caffeine, your sleep will be affected. Cut out as much caffeine as possible and was your quality of sleep jump from 3/10 to a 8/10 and you’ll feel more fresh and rejuvenated. You’ll actually wake up feeling like you’ve had enough sleep and be ready for your day!

10) Last but not least, tip 10 is read my blog and make it part of your daily spiritual digest! :lol: Ok that was a joke! You are valuable and important, make sure you make time for yourself on a regular basis. Whether that be 20 minutes a day to have some quiet time or whether you take 1 whole day a month and dedicate it to yourself is up to you but make it a regular ritual! We dedicate so much time to everyone else and unless we take the time to look after ourselves and nuture our well being that any pleasures in life will be short lived. The more you make time for yourself and take a step out of your life and become a spectator with an attitude of gratitude the more you will feel naturally happy and the more you will enjoy life.

There we have it folks, my top 10 tips and learnings from the 100 days of wisdom! Thank you so much to all of you who have left me messages, comments, sent me emails of blessing and well wishes! I truly hope this has been something you’ve not only enjoyed but something that you’ve got use out of too! Stay tuned for the next 100 days series! :-D

With love,

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Aug 11

Special Relativity

For me, it’s not about special relativity so much as relativity which is infinitely special. It’s with the true gift of contrast and relative experience that I enjoy the greatest things that I can possibly imagine. So everyday I give extra special thanks for the special relative universe I have the great gift of being a part of.

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Jun 3

Well I’m finally back from Amsterdam and as promised I managed to post up my daily wisdom while I was away. I must apologise if there were small spelling or grammatical errors, in any of the posts, but I did each one within a few minutes as I only had a very limited amount of time to write them.

It was an interesting journey in Amsterdam, that is, to put very mildly. There was one experience that stood out for me from the whole trip and it’s a story I’m going to share here. This is very hard for me, as it’s a part of me that I’m not proud of that initiated the experience but out of it I did learn more about myself in that one night than I have done for a very long time!

She was stunning, had a beautiful aura and the moment she stepped onto the bar I knew that I had to have a lap dance from her. Her skin was softer than a baby. As she proceeded to straddle me I couldn’t help but begin to talk to her. She told me her name was Angelina and that she was a local resident in Amsterdam. I made a comment about how her skin was so soft and made a light note of it by asking her what her secret was? She laughed and asked how old I was. I told her that I was 30 to which she then asked me what my secret was to looking so young? :-D

We continued to speak during the course of the lap dance and to be honest, I’d almost forgotten that she was supposed to be giving me a dance because I really enjoyed the conversation that we were having. Later that evening my friends and I were talking and I noticed that Angelina was sitting at the bar by herself having a drink. I decided to go over and talk to her. We ended up talking for the better part of half an hour. She told me that she was a mother of two even though she was only 23 years old. When she told me that I was totally stunned as not only did she look very young too, but she was doing lap dancing as her primary source of income!

As the conversation went on we learned a great deal about one another. I did ask Angelina if she enjoyed being a lap dancer to which she replied that she did, however, she had plans to go study and train to be a make up artist. She was very confident about herself, what she wanted to do and the dreams she wanted to fulfil. We continued talking about various things and life in general. At the end of the conversation, we gave each other a big hug and I said to her: “You’re beautiful on the inside as well as the outside!” After that I wished her the best in fulfilling her dreams to be a make up artist and wished her luck for her marriage too!

Two days later my friends and I ended up being at the same bar again. After a while Angelina came onto the bar. Shortly after she noticed me, waved at me and gave me a big smile. She beckoned me over to have another lap dance from her. I reluctantly said yes but as she sat onto my lap it just didn’t feel right any more! It felt like I had asked a friend to strip naked and dance for me! I felt very uncomfortable but to express that when you’re in a bar surrounded by men jeering you on is not an easy thing to convey. When she finished her dance I gave her a huge hug and whispered in her ear: “I’m truly sorry, but I feel as if you’re a friend now and that just didn’t seem right to me!” She whispered back; “I know and I could tell, it’s because you’re different to every other guy I’ve met, it’s ok!”

I paid her the money after which I waited and hoped to see her walk by after she’d finished so that I could speak to her further. Unfortunately I had to leave as my other friends wanted to go which meant that it is unlikely that I will ever see her again!

Just after we left the bar one of my friends was very tired and just wanted to sleep. We didn’t have anywhere to stay that night so we decided that he and I would go to the airport and find a quiet corner where he could sleep. My other friends wanted to continue their night out and so we went our separate ways. After we got to the airport we found a good spot where my friend fell asleep. We had 6 hours to kill before our flight and even though I was tired I didn’t feel like sleeping. So I sat down and decided to meditate. The whole experience with Angelina came back to me and I spent the better part of four hours and just thinking about what had happened. I could feel the tears welling up in my eyes but I was determined not to cry! It had a huge impact on me what had happened.

I realised that if getting to know someone can make me have a conscience about dancing with this girl then there should be no reason why I find it ok just because I do not personally know the woman, or should I say, the beautiful spirit in front of me. Just like every other man on the planet, I love the site of a naked woman, but that isn’t an excuse for me to satisfy my needs by paying a woman to dance for me. I spent much of that time crucifying myself for what had happened. For good reason too, however, I know that beating myself up inside was not going to change what had happened. Nothing could! It was then that I realised that it was part of the my journey of self discovery that things transpired the way that they did. It was no coincidence that I ended up being at the bar both the nights that Angelina was there, considering that she only danced 3 nights a week. It was what I chose to experience. If I didn’t have that experience with Angelina there would’ve been a chance that I would’ve done the same thing again in the future and continued doing it.

I have no idea if what had happened also had an effect on Angelina. I would love to be able to see her again and tell her the impact she had on me. She probably will never know, but she, in that moment, was my Angel, Angelina.

The question now is where do I go from here? I am always going to be invited to strip clubs by my friends, unless I decide to change my friends! :P So will I ever go again? Yes I will for sure because as far as I’m concerned it’s one place where I still have the opportunity to do some good. Will I ever pay for a lap dance again? No, that is something I will never do again but I have no regrets about what transpired, in fact, I’m grateful. I made my choices, some of which were not the best but I’ve forgiven myself because out of them, I choose the path to grow.

Even whilst writing this I feel like crying, I know it will come out of me at some stage. But I also feel like a new chapter has opened for me and many new doors will open from this experience.

Thank you my Angel-lina! :)

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May 26
This entry is part 24 of 32 in the series 100 Days of Wisdom

An SOS (Simple Obvious Strategy) to increase our love for ourselves and others

Even modern science tells that every atom in the universe is more intricately connected than we will ever probably be able to understand. And who knows, whatever the physical represents, maybe it has it’s metaphysical counterpart?!

It is with this in mind that whenever I see a stranger, or I meet someone for the first time, while still going through the usual motions of the meet and greet, internally I say to myself “HELLO ME!” This is because the person in front of me are intricately connected, we are made of the same stuff, we came from the same soup, we were manifested by the same great universal force, they and I are part of the same universal body!

This always reminds me to treat them exactly as I would treat myself in an counter, i.e., with love, honesty courtesy, and respect.

So in reality, anyone you meet, you are in fact, just meeting another part of yourself. :)

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May 13
This entry is part 11 of 32 in the series 100 Days of Wisdom

There are two ways to focus on the self. 1) You can focus on your problems. 2) You can focus on you growth and self development.

By focusing on your problems, you deny yourself the ability to truly reach out and do something for others, another words, being selfish as opposed to selfless. By focusing on your self development, you have the power and the ability to share that with others as you go along, ergo, you can contribute to their self growth also.

The paradox is, the more focussed on your self growth you are, the more selfless you become. The reason for this is the way to truly grow, is to help others grow too.

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Feb 14
Love…
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In the spirit of this special day, I just wanted to wish my readers loads and loads of love on this day saved for giving extra special lovers and partners that that little bit more than the average day!!

While I was driving along the motorway this morning a particular song came on that sums up for me the meaning of what this day means to me. Enjoy!

India Arie - Wings of Forgiveness

I just want you to know after everything that we’ve been through I just want you to know that I still love you
That I still love you

Had to go across the water
Just to find what was here in my heart all along
Spent so much time trying to be right
That I was dead wrong
If Nelson Mandela can forgive his oppressors surely I can forgive you for your passion

You’re only human
Let’s shake free this gravity of resentment and fly high (and fly high)
You’re only human
Let’s shake free this gravity of judgment and fly high on the wings of forgiveness

Had to run to the arms of curiosity
Just to find what was here in my life all along
I have found that the art of simplicity simply means making peace with your complexity
If Gandhi can forgive persecution surely you can forgive me for being so petty

I’m only human
Let’s shake free this gravity of resentment and fly high (and fly high)
You’re only human
Let’s shake free this gravity of judgment and fly high on the wings of forgiveness

I searched for romance, flowers, and affection
What I found is a lesson on what love really is
And how the game of love isn’t
Bout how much you can take
But that authentic love is about how much you can give

After everything that we’ve been through I just want you to know that I still love you
Want you to know that I forgive you
(thank you for teaching me how to give)
Want to let you know how much you changed my life
Want to let you know you taught me how to fly
And I wrote this song to tell you this
I’m better ‘cause you taught me how to give

I took a swim in the sea of guilt and misery
To find myself on an island in the middle of nowhere
In my solitude I asked in all the highest truth
And what I was told was to thine own self be true
If Jesus can forgive crucifixion then surely we can survive and find a resolution

Let’s keep it moving
Let’s shake free this gravity of resentment and fly high (and fly high)
You’re only human
Let’s shake free this gravity of judgment and fly high (and fly high)
Let’s keep it moving
Let’s shake free this gravity of commitment and fly high on the wings of forgiveness

After everything that we’ve been through I just want you to know that I still love you
Want you to know that I still love you
(let’s fly high)
Want to let you know how much you changed my life
Want to let you know you taught me how to fly
And I wrote this song to tell you this
I’m better ‘cause you taught me how to give

I still love you
Want you to know I still love you
Want you to know I still love you
And I always will love you
And I want to let you know I forgive you
I want to let you know I still love you
Want you to know I still love you

I just want you to know I still love you
Want you to know I still love you
Want you to know I still love you
And I want to let you know I forgive you
I want to let you know I still love you
I want to let you know I still love you
Just want you to know I still love you
Just want you to know I still love you
Want you to know I still love you
And I want to let you know I forgive you

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Feb 6

MeditationMinute meditations are a method through which you can empower yourself in many different way throughout the day. No matter how busy you are, no matter how much you have on your plate, you can always spare yourself a minute or two, 3 or 4 times a day to recharge your spirit. Remember, this is for your well being and so you will give as time and commitment to this in proportion to how important you feel your well being is to you. This is your life and your time, make it important to feel refreshed and to find time for yourself because before you know it, this thing called life, will seem way way distant in the rear view mirror.

For much of my day I sit at an office desk in front of a computer. Working in I.T. there isn’t anywhere else I have to be unless I have to fix some hardware or attend meetings. What I find is that after even just an hour or two of sitting in the same position, when it comes to getting up and moving around, I feel very stiff and brittle throughout my whole body. It takes me at least a few minutes to regain my full flexibility.

For reasons of health and safety, our HR department recommends that we have a change of activity every 30 - 45 minutes to make sure we are getting plenty of movement and not doing to much damage to the body through sitting still for so long. In front of a computer, you eyes can strain, you can get headaches, your joints can get stiff, you can get dehydrated but most importantly you can become very dull from the lack of movement. :P

So what can you do during those few minutes free? Well for me, during those times where I change my activity, I have a number of minute meditations that I use to take my focus away from work for just a moment, and move it towards the bigger picture of human existence, as a whole, and the purpose of being. I try not to challenge myself with questions or bog myself down with proving what I feel to be true, I just allow myself to sink into the experience of being and enjoy the feelings of relaxed awareness and blissful communion with my innermost core.

I offer to you some suggestions and some of the momentary thoughts I use to regain alignment and enhance congruency with my being.

Thought 1 - As I sit here, I am aware that within this universe I am interconnected with every atom. I am a vibrational being and every atom of this body vibrates at a unique frequency just like each and every cell phone has a unique frequency. I know that my state of being will attract vibrational matches and so I, being the powerful creator that I am with unlimited choices, offer vibrations of love, happiness, peace, joy, caring, compassion to everything around me so that others around me feel the vibrations emanating from me. This in turn assists them in attracting vibrational matches.

Thought 2 - I am a 3 part being, a mind, a body and spirit. The body and mind are my tools for experiencing in this realm of the physical. I, the spirit, originated from a non physical plain and chose to inherit a body to come and experience the beauty of contrast within the physical dimension. This universe of relativity exists so that I experientially partake in that which I know of but have little experience in. I cannot know darkness without light; I cannot know happiness without sorrow. So I am grateful at all times to know the purpose of this physical see-saw.

Thought 3 - Every human spirit I encounter is a reflection of me just as I am a reflection of them. As I see each soul, I remember that we are ultimately one universal family. Skin colour, religion, nationality, languages, are all constructs of this social society but it is not the baseline of existence. These are just frames of reference and identity but ultimately we all originated with one purpose, with one desire, that is; to know ourselves through physical experience.

Thought 4 - At every single step I have a choice. I choose what to feel from what moment to the next. I choose how to perceive the world. Nothing shapes my perceptions other that those things that I have chosen to believe. I choose how I react to people, events and circumstances. No one is responsible for the way I feel except me. I have the power of choice. It is my greatest gift and is the most powerful force in the universe. No matter the outcome of my choices, I will remain empowered to know that I can choose something different the next time according to the purpose I’ve chosen for myself.

Thought 5 - I am extremely grateful to be here today. I am grateful for the joy of this experience. I am grateful for all the wonderful things in my life which I get to be a part of everyday. I take nothing for granted and appreciate everything. I am thankful that I chose this particular journey. I thank my creator and maker for offering me the freedom of choice whether to be here or not and I’m glad I made the decision that I did.

These are just a few of the ones that I use on a regular basis and I encourage you to make up your own as you see fit. Make them light but profoundly impactful to you. Think of new ones on a regular basis or just make them up as you go along. There are no hard and fast rules about how you can do this. Just a minute or two a couple of times a day to go deeper within yourself and you will feel more powerful that you have ever felt before and you will find yourself naturally more grateful for all your experiences. Have fun and make it a habit! :)

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Jan 25
Thanks Schumi…
icon1 Amit Sodha | icon2 Daily, Love, Meditations, Thoughts | icon4 01 25th, 2007| icon33 Comments »

One of our regular readers Schumi sent me this lovely quote, we’re not sure of it’s origins but it was so eloquent I just had to post it up.

“Love is the most important ingredient of success. Without it, your life echoes emptiness. With it, your life vibrates warmth and meaning. Even in hardship, love shines through. Therefore, search for love — because if you don’t have it, your not really living — only breathing.”

Even though it’s said over and over again, it can never be said enough, without love there is no purpose to life. Love is more important that breathing. Love is.

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Nov 3

BeggarWhat do you do?

If your first reaction is one of caution, that’s ok. If your first reaction is one of putting extra space between yourself and the beggar, that’s ok. If your first reaction is to look away from the beggar and try and avoid eye contact, that’s ok. If your first reaction is to pretend they are not even there, that’s ok.

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For many, walking past a beggar can be an indicisive time. We hear so many things about beggars that we naturally act cautious and may even have to think carefully before taking any action. In the past, when I was much younger and more naive, I never used to give money to a beggar. I was always told, by my spiritual family, not to. I was told that I if gave them money and they then spent that money on alcohol, I would get the bad karma. I was fed all sorts of beliefs that limited my perception and taught me to be afraid of doing anything genuinely good. I was taught to be selfish. I am fairly sure that I am not alone in this experience or alone with these beliefs.

Here is an example of some good that came out of a similar act: I was also told, never to donate blood because if my blood went to someone, who did something bad, I would get the bad karma from that. After a while I broke free of that spiritual family. One day, some friends of mine were going to donate blood one day and asked if I’d like to go along. I had to think carefully for a while but then I decided “what the heck” an went along with them. That was about 3 years ago and since then I’ve been donating regularly. I recently met a fantastic young lady who happened to stumble across my blog. We quickly became good friends and I started to learn lots about her including the fact that her life depends on her getting a blood transfusion on a monthly basis. Now just remember that we met randomly through her finding my blog, but then we realised that we both have the same blood type and that she gets her blood from the same place where I donate my blood. :)

So there I was, I was told to believe something when I was younger and I was given a very good reason why. But then I made my own reasons of “why not?” It wasn’t a question of whether what I was doing was right or wrong, it was a question of what felt right to me. It was an action that allowed me to feel like I was doing something for the greater good. I was doing something and helping people which is my favorite thing in the world.

So there I was yesterday, walking past a beggar and feeling that initial insecurity; “what should I do? Where should I look? How should I feel? Should I acknowledge them? Will I feel guilty if I walk by without giving money? If I ignore them maybe they’ll dissapear!” Do any of those questions or feelings seem familiar to you?

I decided yesterday to give this beggar, all the change I had within my pocket. Before I did, I smiled and I knew that I wouldn’t catch anything. :P I pulled out what I had, it was about £5 in change, I walked up to the beggar and gave him the money in his hand. When I walked away I didn’t think about what he would use the money on, I didn’t feel like I did it out of pity, I didn’t even feel like I was giving him any money. I felt like I was walking past me, and this other me asked for a sharing, and in that way I shared something with this beautiful human soul. I didn’t think about what clothes he was wearing or that he may hurt me. All I could think was that this soul was a God, just like me.

It was very important for me to feel like my actions were not out of pity or guilt, but through my choosing and for a higher purpose. There were so many ways for me to look at the situation but my favorite was to think of that soul, having attracted that £5 by asking the Universe, and I was the response.

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When you walk past a beggar…

If your first reaction is one of caution, that’s ok. But after you’ve overcome your caution, offer a smile.

If your first reaction is one of putting extra space between yourself and the beggar, that’s ok. But then, walk over to them.

If your first reaction is to look away from the beggar and try and avoid eye contact, that’s ok. But then look at them as if that was you.

If your first reaction is to pretend they are not even there, that’s ok. But then acknowledge them fully, and say hello. :)

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Aug 14

SoulI’ve always been a firm believer that attaching labels to the body and limiting ourselves as a result of those labels has the potential to create constraints in not only our attitude to other people but also the way we interact with other souls and the way we think about ourselves. So recently I made a conscious decision coupled with the effort to put aside any labels the we associate with the human body and remember each individual as a being made of non-corporeal energy. A spirit, a soul, an angel, whatever you wish to call them, that was the vision I attempted to see everyone with. I also remembered that all beings are part of the body of God all interconnected through this massive energy field that we live in, that we call, the Universe. I’ve had this belief from a very young age and I recently put my mind to work on ways that this could benefit myself and others.

So the first question you might obviously have is why? Why even bother doing this at all? The reason is that looking at people a different way other than just their physical bodies opens up a whole new world of possibilities without limitations. Also what this will do is create relationships, in general, on an equal level with everyone that you encounter. As much as I respect and honour any individuals choices and will acknowledge them how they choose to see themselves, I know from my personal experience what works best when it comes to interacting with people. In my mind it is because of the many many labels that we attach to our physical forms that many tensions and problems around the world arise. For example, the most obvious one is skin colour, we all know what kind of effect that can have on attitude of a person when they have the thought “I’m brown skinned and that person is white and so we’re different and brown skinned people are generally like this and white people are generally like that” etc etc. I hear these kinds of words on a daily basis and for me, it achieves only 2 things, animosity and a feeling of distance or separatness. Seeing someone that way and feeling that way about them serves no purpose for me or the other person what so ever. Thinking of them as a spiritual being enabled me to feel complete equality between me and the other person. It also allowed me to be loving with great ease.

It isn’t always possible to do that with every person that I saw while I was driving down the road or while I was walking along the street so when I first started this exercise I decided to try it with 10 people, then 20 the next day and so far I’m on about 100 people a day. Obviously I’m not keeping an exact count but what I’m trying to do is create a habit within my thinking to see people that way.

So the next question is how? Well at first I decided to actually think these following words when I looked at someone: “This being in front of me is a being of incorporeal energy, that being is me and is the body of God. Secondly I visualised their body as a body of light, almost like how you might see a ghost in a movie. I’ve been practising this for the last week and so far I’ve noticed some interesting results:

1) I feel much more confident and relaxed in my interactions with others. Because of the equality that I feel, it’s become much easier and enjoyable interacting with people.
2) I feel like I have a lot more time and energy to give to people. I literally feel more physically energised and I feel much happier in the process
3) I also feel much lighter and open to people. I notice now clearly how restricted my behaviour was with others compared to now.
4) It also seems to be having an effect on other people too. Just today I’ve had two strangers say hello to me as they were walking by. That never usually happens on my day to day basis, I can’t conclusively attribute it to this exercise but like I said, it seems to be having an effect.

I will continue practising this on an ongoing basis with the aim of making this process a habit and seeing other people as beings of light and energy and connected to me as I are to them. If you’ve never tried this before, give it a go, see for yourself the effect it has and what the results are for you! :)

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Jul 27
A nice story….
icon1 Amit Sodha | icon2 Creative, Love, Spiritual | icon4 07 27th, 2006| icon31 Comment »

I got this by chain email today, it was particularly nice so I thought why not post it up here for you all to enjoy too! :)

An elderly Chinese woman had two large pots, each hung on the ends of a pole which she carried across her neck.

One of the pots had a crack in it while the other pot was perfect and always delivered a full portion of water. At the end of the long walk from the stream to the house, the cracked pot arrived only half full.

For a full two years this went on daily, with the woman bringing home only one and a half pots of water. Of course, the perfect pot was proud of its accomplishments. But the poor cracked pot was ashamed of its own imperfection, and miserable that it could only do half of what it had been made to do.

After two years of what it perceived to be bitter failure, it spoke to the woman one day by the stream. “I am ashamed of myself, because this crackin my side causes water to leak out all the way back to your house.” The old woman smiled, “Did you notice that there are flowers on your side of the path, but not on the other pot’s side?”

“That’s because I have always known about your flaw, so I planted flower seeds on your side of the path, and every day while we walk back, you water them.”

“For two years I have been able to pick these beautiful flowers todecorate the table. Without you being just the way you are, there would not be this beauty to grace the house.”

Each of us has our own unique flaw. But it’s the cracks and flaws we each have that make our lives together so very interesting and rewarding. You’ve just got to take each person for what they are and look for the good in them.

SO, to all of my crackpot friends, have a great day and remember to smell the flowers on your side of the path!

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Jun 3

Very often, I hear people say: “I don’t have the time to sit down and pray. I don’t have the time to meditate for 20 minutes a day. I don’t have the time to write about my results and outcomes. I don’t have to the time to look after my well being.” And on and on and on it goes!

You don’t have to find a special time to meditate. You can meditate right now. You can pray right now if you choose. On my forums, I just wrote as my daily power thought: “It doesn’t just take prayer and meditation, every action and interaction can be a part of your spiritual development if you choose it to be.” And this is so true. Over the last few weeks my every interaction with every new soul that I’ve met has been a powerful spritual encounter. Just yeterday I met this young woman who is a musician. We ended up having a incredibly deep spiritual conversation. Later we also realised that we had met on the internet a few years earlier but we lost touch. How uncanny was that!

I’m only attracting those people to me who seem to understand that level of spirituality and personal development. My every conversation with people ends up being about: God, the universe, positivity. I think people find it really fascinating that I speak so highly about life and constantly feel so good. Many people talk in a pessimestic way about everything and so I think people are finding somewhat a bit of a breath of fresh air to talk to someone about life in a good way.

Life is beautiful, the present is an amazing gift, use this great gift and power wisely.

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May 25


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For the the last few weeks I’ve been seeing people on blogs all over the place like Erin Pavlina, Mystic Saint, Lyman’s Blog etc talking about this film called: The Secret.

All you need is an open mind, I don’t think anyone could really explain through words what the secret is about, all you can do it watch it and take from it what your own heart needs. It is an amazing thing, it only costs $5 for a single viewing online (less than the cost of a movie from blockbuster) or $30 for the DVD. I watched it online yesterday and then I immediately ordered the DVD.

It costs very little but I submit to you that it is worth every penny! :)


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May 22
Feel younger! :)
icon1 Amit Sodha | icon2 Creative, Daily, Happiness, Humour, Love | icon4 05 22nd, 2006| icon32 Comments »

Playtime!I’ve recently turned 29 and there is absolutely no way in heaven that I feel like a 29 year old! In fact I look much younger than that too! (Most people say that I even look at least 10 years younger than I actually am! Judge for yourself by clicking here!

With regards to my looks, all I can say is that I’ve been blessed with a young face. But, in terms of my persona, I also don’t “feel” like a 29 year old! I feel more like 16 years young! (Yes, I deliberately used the word young because that’s exactly how I feel!)

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May 3

HeartWe know you say be strong in our hearts
But how can we be strong when our lives fall apart
As our eyes see grey and our thoughts so blue
How can our dreams shine again
The way they did with you

How can you go, when there’s so much left for you to do
There’s still so much you need to teach, so much knowledge you knew
The passing of your soul is silenced through cries
And with this our hearts are filled with sorrows and sighs

You sit and wait from your heavenly seat
You watch and give guidance to those who you see
You send bundles of comfort when we crash to defeat
You cuddle us when we can not be the persons we want to be

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