Hi All,
I hope you have a wonderful xmas and holiday season,
Apologies for my lack of responses to your comments, I’ve just realised that I’m having a problem with my wordpress and I’m not being notified of new comments but I promise to respond soon!
Have a wonderful day!
Peace and good wishes,
Who are you truly? What has been the biggest factor in your shaping to date? When people say the phrase: “be yourself” what do they truly mean and is that even possible with so much to influence us? We are the constructs of so much information, we are made by those things that colour and saturate our growth process. If there is a part of you inside the chances are that is it lost amongst layers upon layers of external input. Very rarely do we show the world who we truly are and that in itself may just be the most difficult things in the world to do. I know that there are parts of me I choose to hide for whatever reasons and on the flip side there are parts of me that shine through that are as a result of those things that have penetrated my being and have made me act in a very specific way.
Just as there was that DVD called: What the bleep do we know? I think there should be a new one called “Who the bleep are we?” I may be challenged for saying this but I believe that very few people actually know themselves and I for one am one of those. Everyday is a growing process and at the same time I’m taking on information and behaviors that are ultimately deciding what actions I will take from one moment to the next. However there is a part of me that wants that sponginess to stop. We are all sponges, soaking up our environments. Most of the times we have to be sponges because there is so much to learn in this day and age that every day becomes a university. I want that part of the sponge to remain open for business but I want the part of me the chooses what actions I take and the personality that I emit to be a more like a rock than a sponge. I want to choose a pattern of behavior that is what I decided to be in accordance with the belief systems that I have decided best reflects what I believe the universe is about and accurately reflects the purpose I have created for myself.
This is a very challenging time for me with the treatment that I am having. Who I was 4 weeks ago is very different than the person I am today and the hurdles before me seem very high although I am sure they are not. But despite those hurdles I will take that fight to my very core. It’s not a fight of violence, but a fight of love whereby I must find a way of accepting these new facets of who I am and integrate them into the person I wish to ultimately shape myself into. I am no different from anyone else though, everyone faces those challenges on a daily basis and the process of discovery of the person who you are or have chosen to be deep down, must be faced with love and your held high! Whether you see that inner person with an exact avatar or whether you decide that, that person will be someone new on a daily basis, do it with a sense of pure acceptance of you. You will change, you will adapt, your purpose will change, your desires will change, you ideal self will change, but change is a sponge, waiting to be immersed in a bucket of water.
With great wishes of love to you on this amazing winters day…
kavikim | 
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12 17th, 2006| 
1 Comment »Our path in life is uncertain
And often the road is unsteady
With each step you bring your fair share of burden
In an effort to reach this new life, waiting and ready
Do not be beset by doubt or fear
For this journey your on is essential
Proud angels in heaven will shed a tear
As they see you reach your potential
From the boy you were to the man you become
New light, no hope, shines through your heart
A dramatic change has now begun
This new you, and new life is about to start
But dear Amit, never loose faith in what you can do
You’re a warrior in mind, heart and soul
Remember there are always angels to guide you
That will show you true meaning and make you feel whole
There’s a chance that I am here for you
To carry you through this changing state
I will offer my kindness, my wisdom and truth
Because maybe I am here due to fate
Don’t look to far for the friends here to guide you
Because there are reasons we are surrounding you now
We are here to help you succeed in what you want to do
All you need to do is ask, and we will say when and how
I prayed that god would help me find my way,
A way through the darkness,
Through the suffering and the pain,
God showed me sweet kindness
Of how to get through the day
A way to make the day start happier again
I asked of miracles to keep a smile on my face
To keep me in god’s graces
And to always keep me in a brighter place
God picked out an angel to keep me from harm
Someone who’s tender, accepting and fair
The one to create balance, when my life isn’t calm
So trusting, so protective, attentive with care
So whenever I fear what this world has to offer
I never have to look too far away
I simply call you, because there is no other
Who god has sent to me, to get me through my day.
Amit Sodha | Amits Quotes, Challenges, Daily, Power of Choice, Powerful Questions, Proactivity, Self Esteem, Tips | 12 14th, 2006| 3 Comments »If you have trouble waking up in the mornings, put a big sign up next to you bed with this question on it…
WOULD I PREFER TO JUST SLEEP AND DREAM, OR WOULD I RATHER CHOOSE TO GET UP AND LIVE THOSE DREAMS?
Today is the 21st day of my treatment. I am beginning to see some changes now. On the physical side there have only been a few minute changes but I’m beginning to notice more on the emotional side. I’m finding it harder to wake up in the mornings, I’m getting stressed and I’m being a bit of pain in the backside to my family. A few people have noticed some changes in me too but I’m hoping that with all that I’ve learned through the POC over the last few years I’ll be able to learn to adapt to these new experiences. It won’t be an easy ride…I may even ask you for your support and understanding over the next 6 months to a year to make this ride more smooth.
I know I’m being ambiguous right now but when this is all over I do promise to elaborate on what the heck I’m talking about! 
Amit Sodha | Cosmos, Creative, Daily, Growth and Self Development, Humour, Perception, Power of Choice, Relationships, Spiritual, Tips | 12 12th, 2006| 4 Comments »We live in a massive global society which is saturated with blame. Justification of the blame is always relative to where you stand but most of the time the blame is assigned to take the focus from the root causes of the events. Blame is a great way to remove the onus from an individual or group assignment and move it to another party.
We’ve all done it, we’ve all been there, we’ve all felt that some external circumstance has been the reason for us feeling a particular way or as the cause for society being a particular way. With so many problems out there it’s no wonder that people feel that sense of blame but the problem is that the time and spent on issuing blame could be much better spent on finding a solution or another way of getting around the problem. This is particularly prevalent in politics, when the govt implements a policy, or otherwise, which goes wrong and immediately the opposition seizes the opportunity to get in front of the camera to blame the government for it’s incompetence.
The greatest challenge we face when it comes to blame is who then takes ultimate responsibility? If no one does then longer term situations and circumstances will linger and eventually situations, feelings, tensions, will be left unresolved and the outcome will be more bitter than ever.
First and foremost, you and I are one and the same. If I blame you, I’m actually blaming myself! Whether you believe in this “Universal Quantum Relative Oneness” is truly beside the point. The point is, if I blame the bus driver for the bus being late, what purpose does it serve and how will it ultimately serve the outcome? Lets take a look step by step at the chain of events that is about to ensue:
1) Firstly, for whatever reason, the bus is late, It’s cold, pouring down with rain and I really need to get to the loo! 
2) Because of that I get angry and frustrated and under my breath I start cursing the bus driver.
3) During my moments of cursing my blood pressure is slowly rising and my body’s immune system is weakening, even if only for a moment
4) Deep down I get angy, I ask God why is this happening to me? More damage to my immune system!
5) The bus finally arrives. When it arrives, I get on first and decide to have a go at the bus driver for being late. Meanwhile the 43 passengers behind me then also get angry and under their breath start blaming me for the them getting home late for the hot meal they have all ready and waiting for them at home.
6) The bus driver gets frustrated at my whining and starts driving like a maniac and that in turn annoys all the other passengers who are standing on the bus.
7) I finally get home…ignore my family so I can get to the loo! But someone is already in there and I get even more frustrated and angry and I remember who is to blame for all of this…the damn bus driver!
The bus driver gets home in a foul mood, doesn’t kiss his wife and then the wife makes the bus driver sleep on the couch and the bus driver blames me for ruining his day and for him having to sleep on the couch.
9) He’s grouchy at his kids and as a result they grow up to be moody adults who blame their parents for everything bad that happens to them!
I think you see where I’m going with this. 
O.K., this maybe a slight exaggeration but in real life we rarely get to see the ripples of our actions and so it’s worth taking a step back to think about what those actions reap. In the case of blame, blame leads to anger and frustration, which in turn leads to bitterness, which is then passed onto others around us, which is then passed around some more, which then leads to health problems, which then leads to all sorts of other things as the example shows! Where does ripple end? I know that eventually it runs out of steam but it’s only a matter of time before another ripple begins and if another ripple begins so will another and another and another.
So if that’s the effects of blame what’s the alternative?
Just as those ripples begin with a thought and an action, in the same way, any situation, no matter what it maybe you can choose which ripple you want to disperse. Now imagine me at the same bus stand, in exactly the same situation…with the rain pouring down on my face, cold, and really needing to go to the loo…but this time, I decide to take a stance of forgiveness and patience, lets see the change in the scenario!
1) I decide to let all the other passengers on the bus before me…and I make sure they know that I’ve given way for them…not to satisfy my ego, but so that they are aware that someone has done something nice for them.
2) When I get onto the bus I smile at the bus driver and say thank you and maybe make a joke about the weather to cheer him up too. Now at this point I could be totally pissed off with the bus arriving late and so fourth…but we’ve already seen what will happen if I act on that blame and anger. So this time, I put that blame and anger aside and try and be as chilled out about the whole thing as I can.
3) I get home and I finally get to go to the loo and feel that sense of relief!! :lol:
4) Because I didn’t let the frustration get to me, I can then settle down and have a nice evening.
5) The other passengers also didn’t get frustrated at me because I didn’t have a go at the bus driver, they feel more at ease on the bus
6) Because the bus driver and I exchanged a few light hearted words that make us both smile, he then goes home and when he gets there he kisses his wife
7) He gets to sleep in his own bed! His kids grow up as level headed respectable adults!
I’ll spare you my babbling but I’m sure you get the picture! 
If we truly want to take the path of blame..see how far it can go?
You can see straight away the anger through blame is futile. I achieves nothing more than disrupting not only my peaceful state but the state of others.
On a planetary scale, we can see around us immediate that the world right now is a pond full of blame ripples, all we need to do is turn those blame ripples into ripples of enjoyment, through seeing the grander picture of what our actions do. A few easy minutes of introspection can give you all the tools you need to find that place where you can feel more relaxed. And through that state of feeling more relaxed you’ll be in a better position of not looking for the person to blame in all situations, but rather looking for a solution, finding a way through the tough times without letting your blood pressure go through the roof!
Don’t make that poor bus driver sleep on the couch!
I was just peeking on Serenity’s blog and I noticed that she put up 5 things that people may not know about her and so I thought I would do the same so here goes…
1) I was once one of the leads in an operatic version we did of “Noah’s Ark” at school.
2) A friend and I once created a rap song and video which we filmed in my garage. It was called: “We’ve got the soul to rock and roll”
3) I used to be a professional magician and I did a stage act in front of about 500 people back in the late 90’s.
4) I’ve been on T.V. several times…all of which were just random times where I happened to be in the right place at the right time. I’ve never seen any of the programs I’ve appeared in, I’ve only ever been told by other people about them. (Strangers still come up to me and say: “I’ve seen you on T.V.”)
5) I once met one of the “Harlem Globetrotters” (I can’t remember which one) at my school and had a little competition with him on spinning a basketball on my finger. (I lost but I did pretty well)
Ahhhhhh it’s that time of year again! It’s the beginning of December and not only does that signal that Christmas is coming but that another new year looms over us. For many, that symbolizes a new era, a new beginning, an opportunity to put right some wrongs and make changes to our lives for the better. The trouble is that the “new year” feeling doesn’t seem to last for long and the motivation it once carried evaporates and leaves a trail of disappointment and discontent. The great thing is though there is a solution, a powerful one which I’m about to provide here to help you not only create powerful resolutions but ones that last and ones you can build upon for the future.
A new years resolution is quite simply a choice or a firm decision that you can make and begin to put into action, in the new year, in order to improve the quality of your life. And so with that in mind, here are my 8 simple steps for solidifying your resolutions and making sure you don’t quit after the first couple of days!
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1) First and foremost….the Christmas season can bring with it powerful emotions whether that be positive or negative. Use the power of Anchoring to have those powerful and positive feelings to hand at any time you choose. Create powerful anchors so that you can recall those powerful driving emotions at any time.
2) Decide now as early as possible what resolutions you think you will want to do for the new year. Just remember though that you can create, begin and delete resolutions as and when you choose, there is no rule book that says you have to keep them. Remember that if the resolution no longer serves you, discard it and create a new one in it’s place no matter what time of year that may be.
3) Write your resolutions down and keep them somewhere, where you can see them every day. Whether that be in your diary, on post it notes on your wall next to your bed, on your computer as your screen saver…it’s entirely up to you but put them somewhere, where you know you know you will look at them every day.
4) Whether you tell people about your resolutions is entirely up to you. Some people think that if you tell people then they don’t maintain their power and make it harder for you to stick to them. Other people think you should because your friends and the people around you will also act as a reminder for you to stick to your resolutions. It’s totally down to personal preference.
5) If applicable, set a timescale for your resolution. Of course this will be highly dependent on what you’ve chosen your resolution to be. However this can be extremely helpful in making sure that you stick to your resolution. If you resolution is to give up coffee for example, is it just short term for a detox or do you want to give it up for good?
6) Be specific with your resolutions and plan them well. If your goal is to visit the gym 3 times a week then plan that into your schedule so other things do not get in the way. Make sure you allow time for yourself too.
7) You can make as many resolutions as you like but if they are big things for you make sure you only do 1 or 2 or if you doing a small thing you could maybe do 3 or 4 smaller things
Don’t just make one resolution for the new year and leave it there. Make sub-resolutions throughout the year. You can do them every week, every month or even every 3 months, as a suggestion though i’d say do it around once every month to keep the momentum of your resolutions going without getting swamped. If you do feel like you are overwhelming yourself, take a step back, slow down and and take a look again at your resolutions and decide which ones best serve you and then discard any others.
And there you have it, the 8 key elements for creating lasting resolutions over the new year period! 
What resolutions do you have planned for the new year?
Amit Sodha | Challenges, Confidence, Daily, Growth and Self Development, Self Esteem | 12 1st, 2006| 1 Comment »I’ve now worked with children from various backgrounds for the past 3 years and once thing I’ve realised is that there isn’t a single child I’ve met that didn’t have incredible potential. I’m not just saying this to keep people happy but there is absolute truth to this. Every child I’ve met has been unique and had talents in unique areas.
Just a few weeks ago, the group of children I was working with had to design a housing estate. They had to not only physically create a model for their idea but they also had to do a presentation in front of the rest of their year. In the presentation they had to explain what the inspiration was for their plans explaining why they had designed it the way they did and what the specific features of their estate were: e.g. off street parking, playing areas for children, sanitation, limited access to traffic etc.
Each group consisted of 5 - 6 children. (When I say children, in reality they are all young adults and were all around 14 - 15 yrs old.) Within each group they had to decide amongst themselves what roles they would play for the task. They could either be a design manager, a managing director, a planning manager, a marketing manager etc, from start to finish the task was at their hands with minimal input from me. They had an hour and a half to complete the task and during that time I visited each group to see what ideas they came up with. All of the groups that I observed did extremely well in all areas. They came up with some fantastic designs, they worked well in their teams even though we separated friend and peer groups and they all settled into their roles extremely well.
While I was observing I noticed that deep down each child knew what they wanted to do. While there were some who were more vocal and were happy to voice their opinions, some were quieter than others and had less confidence in expressing themselves and what particular part of the project they wanted to get stuck into. However eventually I think most of them ended up doing what they wanted to do. Some wanted to get involved with the actual design and layout of the housing estate model, some wanted to design the estate agency window layout and the selling point for the houses on the housing estate. Others just wanted to oversee the whole project and get involved with the marketing, the design and the overall management.
At the end of the task all the groups came up with some fantastic ideas and we as a panel had to judge and decide who was the winner overall (which is never an easy thing to do).
I couldn’t believe how much creativity, enthusiam, drive, focus and knowledge they showed through the entire project. I was stunned by the amount of effort they put into the task but more so than that I was shocked by how little they were aware of their own potential for creativity! It was clear that most of them were unaware of the talents they had they had never been shown or told of their amazing array of talents. Grades don’t always paint the right picture for children but telling them and making them aware, of their diverse talents, does! If we do not nurture those skills then those children will remain unaware of them and less likely to be able to make use of them towards their future goals. Because they are unaware at a conscious level, at the unconscious level they be left feeling unfulfilled.
Simple recognition is one powerful and simple way to make them aware. Even those children who were disruptive showed wonderful potential for leadership. But how would they know that if they’re always told be quiet and not disrupt the class?
We must encourage our young ones and let them know what talents they so that they can grow into confident adults who believe in themselves. Know how to find out there talents and find a way of encouraging and emerging that talent whether directly or indirectly.
Show them, know them, guide them, encourage them, love them, nurture them.
