I was at a seminar yesterday and someone mad this statement that will stick with me for a very long time I’m not sure if they quoted this from somewhere or that this was their own quote but thank you for bringing it to my attention: -
Fear freezes you, love frees you.
Amit Sodha | 
Amits Quotes, Daily, Growth and Self Development, Happiness, Meditations, Positive Thoughts, Power of Choice, Spiritual, Tips, Wisdom | 
06 29th, 2007| 
No Comments »Virtually anything can become a spiritual act or a meditation when you embed 3 things into your consciousness. It could be singing, dancing, rapping, climbing, golf, tennis, painting, writing, driving, playing, sex, bathing, yes, absolutely anything at all!! All you have to do is practise these 3 mantras converting them into an inner dialogue or script that gives you some fire in your belly! They are:
1) Remember that you have a wonderful gift, a body through which to experience and perform action through so that may experience emotion and action. You were given the gift of your 5 senses so that you could process, colour, contrast, smells, tastes, make tactile contact, make love or scream according to whatever emotion you choose to experience!
2) Whatever it is that you’re doing, when done in a powerful frame of mind, can enhance not only your experience, but your result too. The stronger and more focused your level of thinking will assist in giving you the greatest result. I was reminded recently of a strength test you can do whilst varying your state of mind. You will always find that you will be stronger while in a positive state than when you’re stressed or feeling low.
3) No matter the activity, think of it as “my time to grow”. It’s important to have fun but the fun expires quickly unless you’re learning and growing. So consciously tell the unconscious that through this activity you will now get better and have fun whilst learning. This act is spiritual because it is contributing to my spirit becoming immersed in the experience of now. It is in the now that truly pleasure lies.
Remember to try different things too. There is never any harm in trying something new and more than likely you going to make new friends and discover something about yourself that you never knew! 
If you wait for others to take action so that you can complete something, chances are you’ll be waiting for a long time! It’s better to do whatever is necessary, even if it means doing it yourself!
Amit Sodha | Confidence, Daily, Growth and Self Development, Positive Thoughts, Proactivity, Wisdom | 06 27th, 2007| 4 Comments »Just as overt aggression doesn’t achieve much in the long run, the same goes for being passive. The most beneficial place to be is one where you know how to assert yourself where it is needed and then take a step back and let others share when they need to be heard.
Firstly, assertiveness comes from knowing that what you have to say is important and it counts. If you believe that your ideas don’t mean much and no one will want to listen to them, you’ll go straight into passive mode and afterwards, the chances are, you’ll end up regretting it. Thoughts like: “Nah, that’s stupid, if I say that people will think I’m silly!” Will naturally cause you to pull back and regress into yourself. So the next time you notice yourself doing that you’ve got to break that habit and say to yourself: “I’m going to share my thoughts and ideas because I count and they are great ideas!”
Validate yourself, thought and ideas on a regular basis to get yourself into the habit of creating a more assertive thought pattern and hence becoming more assertive in your day to day situations.
Amit Sodha | Career, Daily, Growth and Self Development, Positive Thoughts, Proactivity, Thoughts, Tips, Wisdom | 06 26th, 2007| No Comments »Hi Everyone, it feels good to be back and I must say I had an magnificent time at UPW. I’ll be posting my stories up a little later on.
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I want you to take a good look at yourself and your thoughts and ask yourself to what degree are you a self critic and to what degree are you self constructive? If you spend much of your engaged in self critical inner chat then it’s unlikely you will ever be able to get the results in life you truly want. Whereas if you were to engage in a more healthy inner dialogue of constructive evaluation and then ask yourself “what can I change to do things better?” Then you will begin to automatically make changes to your actions without even realising it. You will begin to become more proactive and take the necessary steps towards your goals. Its a form of self coaching whereby you are not too soft on yourself and neither are you too harsh on yourself but you find the balance in getting the right kind of self talk to enhance the quality of your life.
I’m off today to the Tony Robbins UPW seminar again this year but this time I’m crewing for the event. It doesn’t look like there’s internet access where I’ll be staying so this my be my last post until next Monday.
As it’s day 50, another milestone, here’s another treat for you all. Here’s a link to some notes made by someone who attended a Tele-seminar by Neil Donald Walsch, author of the Conversations with God series of books. The seminar was about his new book called Happier than God. Thanks to Shama for allowing us to share it here, enjoy the notes, there are some real gems in there!
http://www.shamahyder.com/2007/06/happier-than-god-by-neale-donald-walsh.html
In the U.K. it’s illegal to talk on a mobile phone, without a hands-free kit, while driving. Today was one of the few days that I forgot to take my hands-free kit with me to work. As I was driving home, I got a call from my best friend, we began talking and a police patrol saw me. So they did a “U” turn and pulled me over.
I was totally aware of what was about to befall me so I decided to pull over even before the police got near me. They pulled over just in front me and approached the car. In those few seconds, I had made my choice about what I wanted this encounter to be. I knew I couldn’t change the fact that I was about to fined and given 3 penalty points. What I decided was that I would just be polite and friendly and just allow the officers to do their job.
They beckoned me to step out of the car and go over to them. They went through the motions writing out the ticket and doing what they needed to do. While they were doing so, I just decided to strike up a conversation and by the end of it, I had them laughing and smiling. In fact, I even began telling them about the power of choice and how I was a firm believer that it was through my choosing that the situation arose. One of them commented that they wanted to give me an award for being the friendliest person they’ve ever had to deal with.
I wasn’t frustrated that I was given a £60 fine, I wasn’t upset that I just got 3 points on my licence even though 3 points had just come off. Nope, I actually went away and I had a smile on my face too. I actually went away because in some small measure, I restored their faith in people. I did get the impression that what happened today, i.e., because I treated them like human beings and not people who were out to get me or there to harass innocent drivers, will have a lasting impact on both the officers.
On my 100 days of wisdom project.
I can’t believe I’m already nearing day 50 and I’ve haven’t even exhausted 1/10th of my ideas as yet…not even close!!
I decided to begin this out of the blue because I wanted to find a good way of channelling all the ideas I have that go through my head. I love blogging, but before I started the 100 days project I was only blogging about once a week and I was struggling because I didn’t have focus. The 100 days project gave me something to focus on and I absolutely love doing it! Either at the beginning of the day or just before I go to bed, I go up to my computer and let the ideas roll in and I base my wisdom post on usually the first idea or thought of wisdom that comes to mind.
I would love to hear whatever feedback you have to offer me regarding the 100 days of wisdom. Do you enjoy the posts? Are you a regular reader? Do you think they’re a waste of time? Any feedback will be received gratefully.
I have to say though, I’m truly enjoying doing it and once I’ve finished this 100 days of wisdom, I was thinking of starting a new 100 days of ???? project. I have some ideas already:
1) 100 days of meditation
2) 100 days of the driving ‘ologies - (Also a book I’m writing)
3) 100 days of my stories
4) 100 days of SOS’s (Simple Obvious Strategies)
5) 100 days of inspiring acronyms
6) 100 days of poems (This one will be a challenge)
7) 100 days of love
100 days of zen
9) 100 days of spiritual humour (So will this one!)
10) 100 days of cosmic ordering
I know some of these are bizarre, some would be a big challenge, some would be fun to try. Some I may even fail on and might not be able to carry on for the whole 100 days. Who knows though, the possibilities are endless, some I may even turn into best selling books! 
I would love to hear from you though, so please, if you’ve never posted before, introduce yourself and give me the gift of your feedback.
In gratitude,
Do unto yourself as you do unto your friends.
We never find it easy to implement the ideas unto ourselves that we so beautifully and devoutly give to our friends and loved ones in need. The instant we see a friend or loved one who is in need of counsel we’re more than happy to dig deep and find a solution to their problem. More often than not, it’s not the solution that solves the problem, but the fact that someone was there to listen and invest time in them.
Likewise, when you find yourself walking a plank and with nowhere to turn, ask yourself this question: What advice would you give a friend if they were if they were in the boat? Suddenly you’ll find yourself digging deep, investing time in yourself the same way you would were it really a friend that needed your help.
Amit Sodha | Daily, Growth and Self Development, Proactivity, Tips, Wisdom | 06 18th, 2007| No Comments »Focus on one thing per day!
On a typical day you might be tempted to focus your energy and attention on several aspects of your life and personal development. But what might happen is that you may end up putting a strain on your mental resources because of you’ll shift from one area like your health, then suddenly move to your finances, then jump to your studies etc. This can be truly exhausting.
When you wake up in the morning, make a firm decision about what area you would like to focus on. Lets say that you choose to focus on your health, then stick to that and that only. Choose your affirmations or meditations accordingly and when you’re filling your moments of quiet time while riding the bus, you almost have a mini plan and hence your thinking will be much clearer.
Vary it from day to day, spending too long on one area will eventually make you bored. It’s like exercising, you change your activity to get some variety. Do the same for your internal training and you’ll find that clarity will and focus will reach new highs.
Within the next few days, do something kind and unexpected for a total stranger!
Amit Sodha | Blog Carnival, Growth and Self Development, Other Blogs, Tips | 06 17th, 2007| 16 Comments »Welcome to this edition of the blog carnival! A huge thank you to Lyman for letting me host this edition. There are some superb entries this week and I’ve personally enjoyed perusing each and every one of them! Enjoy! **CUE THE CARNIVAL MUSIC**
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David presents The Secret in Think and Grow Rich posted at Worldwide Success.
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Matthew Stevenson presents Thoughts on God posted at Food for thought, by archangelG.
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FameFire presents 21 Suggestions for Happiness posted at famefire.com.
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Nik Agarwal presents Success Begins With You | The Air posted at The Air.
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Jack Yoest presents The Manager?s Mission posted at Yoest.com.
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Conan Stevens presents Movie Extras, What To Do At The Film Set posted at Tall Muscle Actor Blog.
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Craig presents Laugh your way to health and happiness posted at Pursuit of Happiness Blog.
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Ananga presents What Chronic Illness Taught me about Productivity posted at Ananga Sivyer’s Living by Design Blog.
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Debra Moorhead presents Opposite George: Learning How to Match Your Beliefs to Your Desires posted at Debra Moorhead . com.
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Nahush Khubalkar presents Record Your Creative Ideas posted at Success Mantras.
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Judy Braley presents The Power of Words posted at GrowFromWithin.com.
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Jimmy Atkinson presents Take Any College Class for Free: 236 Open Courseware Collections, Podcasts, and Videos | OEDb posted at OEDb: Online Education Database.
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John presents Attracting Friends posted at Attracting People.com.
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Lola Fayemi presents How I Raise My Vibration posted at Real World Spiritual and Personal Development.
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Craig Harper presents The REAL SECRET of Success. posted at Motivational Speaker.
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FitBuff presents How I Lifted 50 Pounds with My Mind posted at FitBuff.com’s Total Mind and Body Fitness Blog.
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Raymond David Salas presents The Power of Letting Go posted at ZenChill.com Power Tools Blog.
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William Tully presents What about FINITE capacity? | LOGICal eMOTIONs posted at LOGICal eMOTIONs.
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Karen Lynch presents Paradigms and Possibilities posted at Live The Power.
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Jimson Lee presents Speedendurance.com’s 10 Success Tips posted at Speedendurance.com.
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zenofeller presents The drowned faithfull posted at zenofeller.com.
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A Better You Blog presents Being Honest With Yourself posted at A Better You Blog.
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Jason Ivers presents Defeating Fear Of Failure (Creating Success) posted at A Miracle A Day General Feed.
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John Wesley presents The Secret to Creativity posted at Pick the Brain.
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Ruby presents 25 Ways to Make Money Quickly and Easily (and Legally)! posted at Advice and Rants.
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Uncle Leo presents Uncle Leo Rumbles: Goals for Retirement Saving and Why They Don’t Always Matter posted at Uncle Leo Rumbles.
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Alex Blackwell presents What Makes a Relationship Great? posted at The Next 45 Years.
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Lyman Reed presents Seven Things I Learned from Jack Canfield posted at Creating a Better Life.
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Gal Josefsberg presents 60 IN 3 United We Stand: How to motivate your friends and loved ones to improve their health posted at 60 IN 3.
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Chris presents Activties People Do When They Hang Around Each Other posted at How to have more social success.
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SpiKe presents What Influences Our Priorities In Life? posted at Organize IT.
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Dave Cheong presents Waking Up Early - 15 Tips That Work posted at Dave Cheong | Engineer to Entrepreneur.
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Golbguru presents Lifestyle Inflation - When Does It Become A Problem? posted at Money, Matter, and More Musings.
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Next weeks edition will be held at Real World Spiritual and Personal Development so make sure you submit your entries and get on over there to check out what topics your fellow PD bloggers are writing about!
Amit Sodha | Daily, Growth and Self Development, Happiness, Meditations, Positive Thoughts, Power of Choice, Proactivity, Spiritual, Thoughts | 06 17th, 2007| 1 Comment »I love meditating, in some ways I exploit it to my advantage because I know that it carries with it some amazing power! (I’ve made it sound evil, but truly it’s not! :P)
Here are some of the perks of meditation that I’ve found over the 15 years I’ve been a practitioner.
1) Traffic jams and queues appear to move much much quicker! - This is so true and anyone who does this will know exactly what I’m talking about! When I’ve been caught in a major traffic jam or a long queue I, more often then not, meditate! It is the perfect time, because, lets face it, what else can I do? But if I get sucked into the emotions of stress and frustration I always feel like the queue or traffic jam takes 10 times longer and I get tired, I start to yawn, I slouch in my chair, I get back ache etc! However if I take control of my state, do some relaxing meditation, I find that the queue or jam almost vanishes in no time at all!
The type of meditation doesn’t matter. I vary it according to what I feel like doing. Sometimes I just focus on my breathing make sure I’m fully oxygenating my body. Obviously though, I would not do this method if it was a hot day stuck in a traffic jam as all I would be doing is breathing in harmal toxic emissions. If that were the case I would do some commentary style self talk internally and just do some visualising or just uplifting self talk. It truly doesn’t matter what type you do, but that focus will take your mind away from the situation and hand and your perception of time will change.
I also suggest that if you’re driving that you don’t close your eyes. You can meditate just as effectively with your eyes open just as well as when your eyes are closed. In fact, open eye meditation will improve your ability to focus in the long run and will give you the power to meditate anytime, anywhere!
2) People will be much more naturally attracted to you! - Scientfic studies have shown that meditation not only has beneficial positive effects on the body but on the mind too. When I’ve had powerful meditation, or even if I’m still in a meditative state while walking or carrying on with my day to day tasks, I find that people naturally get attracted to me and want to talk to me. Not only that but I find I get twice as many smiles and people are just much more responsive and friendly! Who knows what the true reasons for this are but all I know is because people are so much more responsive to me, it allows me to then share valuable information with people, such as the work I do or even tell them about meditation. Sometimes it even just ends up being a brief encouter with us both walking away with a smile! 
I suggest you try this for yourself, do some meditation every morning first thing when you wake up, any type you wish; commentary, chanting, breathing, or visualising. Watch the wonderful amazing effects unfold! You will find people smiling at you and greeting you even if they don’t know you! You will find that you have more of a reason to smile and that in turn will make more people smile at you and in turn your day will go much more smoothly!
3) It takes away the awkwardness of being alone! - I personally love alone time, but I know not everyone does. Lets say you’re in a restaurant with a friend or you partner and they have to visit the bathroom or they get called away by an important phone call. Now you can choose to pass away that time feeling uncomfortable alone or you can choose to be constructive with that time to yourself. If you choose the latter and yes, you’ve guessed, I’m gonna suggest meditation! 
In this particular scenario, I would suggest some creative visualisation or deep breathing, however, go for chanting if you have the confidence!
Just like point 1, the time will fly by much quicker but you can be proud of yourself that you’ve done something very constructive with that time!
4) You will deal with the curve balls much more efficiently! - Meditation has the added side effect of giving you much more “inner strength.” You will find that generally you will be much more well equipped to deal with the unexpected curves in the road of life. You may be dumped by your partner, you may be given the sack at work, you may be diagnosed with a terminal illness. Somehow, because you have now made meditation a part of your life, these calamities will not seem as big as they once did. You will be emotionally more stable and generally find that you feel more happy for no reason! You will look these events square in the eye and say….”thank you” because you know that these events have come to you to make you grow. You will then be in a position to help others and share the wonder of meditation with those that need it the most!
Spirituality is not about your spirit, it’s about our spirit!
Amit Sodha | Daily, Happiness, Perception, Proactivity, Spiritual, Thoughts, Time | 06 14th, 2007| 2 Comments »If you were to ever listen to a Tony Robbins or a Deepak Chopra tape or CD regarding to time, you will hear them say things like time is emotion or time is a perceptual construct of the mind. I’ve been told some weird and wacky stories about time to corroborate those theories and I even have a few of my own to tell. The more and more I think about time, the more I realise that I have total and absolute control over my experience of it.
My bizarre paradoxical thought with regards to time is this, the more I realise I have time, the less I want it! I’ve realised that sometimes in order to appreciate things, sometimes you have to tell yourself there is a scarcity! How often do you appreciate the things you have in abundance? How often do you appreciate the things that are scarce? When this thought first occurred to me I had trouble accepting it. But I realised that appreciating while there is abundance is actually a greater challenge than appreciating while there is scarcity. Doing so will ensure that you never lack and through it you will attract more and more.
For me, time is an exception though. I’m a firm believer in reincarnation but I try and forget the fact that I will reincarnate after I die. The reason I do is because I try and convince myself that this is my one and only chance to make my mark in this world! THIS is my one shot to have an impact in the greatest possible way I can imagine! There may be an abundance of time for all of us but what greatness comes from thinking that you always get a second chance or third chance? What if I were to think: “I only get one shot and one shot only!” The pressure is immense but I’ve always done well under pressure so why not make it into and effective strategy to get the best from myself? Thinking about my future lives almost makes me want to procrastinate this life away with thoughts like: “I can always do it later!”
The sad thing is many people go beyond their prime years before they have this kind of realisation. Some people manage to regain their youth and turn their lives into something amazing but many die with regrets and much pain in their hearts!
I have no idea if I will die tomorrow or live to be 100! So based on this thought, not in a depressing way, but in an inspired way: “How can I make my mark today?” If I only have a very short time to achieve something then let me begin today! Let me make the time, this moment, right now! Let me be daring and take a few chances here and there to truly change the lives of many for the better! You can make this attitude habitual as doing so will give you energy even when you thought you’d used it all up! It will be the prime driving force for your day to day actions and will carry you through when the waves are rocking your boat in all directions!
There is a disclaimer though! This isn’t an excuse to go and abuse your body with drugs and alcohol just because of the scarcity of time! No, no! You can live life to the full without any of those things! In fact, abusing your body with drugs or junk will make your last moments and memories hellish! Have you not heard the stories of those who have only a short time to live and yet the somehow find the strength to go and do amazing things? I choose to be in that category of person!
No matter what your experience of time may be, find some way of appreciating the here and the now and you will find that your quality of life enhanced exponentially. Live as if this was your only life and live it as if it is short!
It’s never be too late at night or too early in the morning to phone a true friend if you need too!
Amit Sodha | Challenges, Daily, Eliminating Stress, Power of Choice, Wisdom, Work and Career | 06 13th, 2007| 1 Comment »Gone in 3 seconds!
For the last few days and for at least the next 5 days I’m going to be pushed to my limits emotionally, physically and spiritually! We are drawing ever closer to the end of this project at work and it’s now at the stage where it is crunch time! Not only is my job demanding mentally because of constantly learning of new technologies like wireless and VOIP systems but it is also very physical because at times I have heavy equipment to lift and lots of running around to do!
I was incredibly stressed today at one point but I realised I was stressed only because I was choosing to be so. It only took a moment to shift my awareness and change my perception of the situation. It was easy. All it took was 3 seconds.
1st second - In the first moment I had to become aware of what I was feeling
2nd second - Then I had to offer myself a choice on what I could experience alternately
3rd second - Then I got myself into that state and found my productivity jump! I also got to a point where I began enjoying once again the tasks and challenges ahead of me!
I was just talking to a friend also and she could here the tiredness in my voice but in truth I was grateful for this experience because it is pushing me to new levels of self growth!
If you happen to be in the same situation, you the gone in 3 seconds method and then also remember what you’re gaining from the whole experience!
What’s right Vs What works.
I’ve been in many situations in the past where people have tried to convince me that their method of doing something is right. I’m all for learning new methods and techniques but I’m less concerened with what is right as opposed to what acutally works when put to the test.
E.g. If someone has said to me that their method of task prioritisation is the most effective way, I’ll ask them to demonstrate and then I’ll also try it for myself. Or someone might try and convince me that their way of meditating is the best way or the only right way to meditate!
Trying to force your ideas onto people is never a good strategy for getting them to take note of your methods. Usually great ideas speak for themselves but you have to share them in some way. So instead of trying to convince, just learn to share the idea economically rather than trying to stamp the idea on the other persons forehead. If it’s something they’re truly interested in, they will ask questions, but if they’re not interested, not only have you conserved energy, but you may still have a friend at the end! It’s a win win strategy!
I understand how people can get a bit too excited that their methods are superior but allow people the chance to find out for themselves what actually works for them. We’re all different and we have our preferences, so what works for you may not necessarily work for everyone!
I remember, when I was in infant school, my friends and I were sitting at the dinner table having an intelligent dicussion, as you do when you’re 7 years old.
We were all trying to figure out something. After seeing an old black and white movie, and some old black and which pictures, we all began to ask the question; if everything was black and white in the old days, when and how did the world become full of colour?
Unleash your child-like curiosity just for today and find don’t be afraid to ask the question of the thing you’ve always wanted to know!
