The Core Principles of Life

by Amit Sodha

in Coaching

Core Principles of Life For Personal Growth

I’ve been a student of personal development since the age of 15. No matter which path you take, which teacher your adopt or which philosophy you study, there are common strands among all of them. If personal growth is something that is important to you i.e., you enjoy spending time learning about your nature and how you can expand your being/consciousness/awareness, then I know you’ll be able to relate to everything that I’m about to talk about and these core principles.

When I talk about personal growth, it’s a generic term and to me. I believe it’s synonymous with religion, spirituality, self-help, personal development, and enlightenment. The end goal is the same and only thing that is different is the name we give it.

Courses in Personal Growth

You can go on many different types of personal development courses. They could be about Wealth and Finance, NLP, mastering your destiny. The truth is, I really don’t think you need them. Most people go to them, enjoy the vibe, get really excited, come away energised and then a few days later, they’re back to square one. If you’re not prepared to action what you learn, then save yourself some money. It’s better to buy the books, put into practise the exercises or recommendations, and then see how far you get. Chart your progress. If you can take that first step and make change, only them invest in a seminar to learn further.

If you’ve been on as many of these as I have, then you’ll know that most of these courses offer the same information packaged in various ways. There are a few that will offer you something very special and very unique. So if you decide to invest and go, choose and spend your money wisely.

NLP and Coaching

NLP is an amazing tool and an ever increasing number of organisations are integrating it’s power to develop it’s people. Life coaches often use it to help clients move through blocks, give clarity, purpose and direction.

You can learn all that you need to by acquiring a few good books on the subject and reading them through thoroughly. Sometimes it’s good to have someone there to remind you of the key components which will relate to you and that’s where coaches can assist your growth. If you decide to take that route, choose a coach who isn’t someone who uses the same formula for each client.

I remember reading an article where the journalist had decided to take on a life coach. He talked about the processes he was put through and when I read the article I really felt sorry for him. It sounded like he’d chosen the most boring and clinical coach possible.

Find a life coach that understands how to really tap into you. Who isn’t following a set formula and knows that you are totally different from the last person they coached. Your needs are different and so shop around for a coach that resonates with you.

One thing I promise you is that no matter which personal development book you read, you will come across all of these principles, perhaps in a different vernacular, but the core messages will always be the same. An example of this is the power of choice or decision. EVERYTHING BEGINS WITH A CHOICE and that is why it is the core power of all human beings. Nothing would happen without you making a decision about it first.

It’s like the eternal debate of cause versus effect, or free will versus fate. If you really want to look at the inn’s an out’s of the debate I guarantee you that after exploring both very carefully you will come to the same conclusion that I have.

I’ve decided to split these into 3 different categories of which all can apply to pretty much whatever you do in life. Whether it be relationships, career, financial or physical you will be able to use these principles to determine which direction your life takes. The principles of the body are just a view I have of maintaining physical balance that keeps you healthy and strong so that you can do all the things that you enjoy.

Mind

1. Being choosy – The power of choice or decision

‘Things do not happen. Things are made to happen’

- John F Kennedy

I’ve already spoken about this briefly and I wanted to touch on it a little bit more. Are you manufactured through your influences e.g. your parents or do you have a greater say in whom you become? I remember a scene from Star Trek Nemesis where Shinzon (the evil dude) says to Captain Picard “I cannot change who I am”. Bull! Of course you can! You can change you who desire to be at the drop of a hat! And that is all it takes is the power of your decision. How hard is it for you to say to yourself: “Today I choose to be the designer of my future and will consciously take control of where I would like my life to go!”

Sometimes people are afraid of making the wrong choice or decision and I tell you there is no such thing. Once you’ve made a choice it sealed in time so how can it be wrong? It either went the way you wanted or it didn’t. Indecision is a curse because all you do is put your life on hold. You waste your own valuable time. I’m not saying you should make rash decisions but I am saying learn how to make them quickly without feeling a sense of regret and hindsight. Just learn and move forward.

It’s all about the power of decision and when you realise you have this power you can then put fresh on light on all of the events in your life.

2. What do you see? – The understanding of perception

Do you remember this picture – Old or young woman? What did you see? Did you see the old woman? Did you see the young girl? Or do you just see a combination of lines making up various shapes?

How you choose to see something is the deciding factor of how you respond to any situation. What may seem like a tragedy to you may seem like an opportunity to another.

If you experience some kind of tragedy, whether it be something minor or something life changing, see the balance and know there is some kind of opportunity.

How you choose to see something will always define what meaning it gives you. When you realise you are in control of that you will see a whole world of opportunity open up to you.

3. The power to ask quality questions

“Why is this always happening to me?” – Does that sound familiar? It does to me because I’ve been there many times. What you’ve done is basically ask yourself a question. Look at the question again. What are you going to respond with? You’re going to respond with similar quality answers. If anything you’re going to get answers that are going to perpetuate responses of helplessness and despair.

When people come to me with a problem and they ask me for advice generally the first thing I ask them is: “If someone came to you with this very same problem what would you advise them?” Immediately it shifts their focus and they look at it from a different angle and they suddenly find themselves solving the very problem that they came to me about.

Questions shift what you focus on and ultimately the results you get in life. Go away and examine how you question events that occur and you’ll realise that often you get the same thing happening in your life because you’ve been asking yourself the same questions over and over again.

Body

1. Munch Munch – Eating Sensibly

You don’t have to become a vegan or do mega fasts just to become healthy. All you need to do is eat sensibly and have a balanced diet. Some people do try various extremes of dieting or ways to change their shape but most of those methods are temporary and generally do more damage than good.

I think Tony Robbins says it best when he have a salad with every meal. You can’t really get a simpler diet than that and it’s one you can stick to for life! Be sensible and realise that certain things in extreme are bad for you of which there is no question. Examples are caffeine, alcohol, tobacco and sugar. Any number of things could kill you really so that’s not my reason for avoiding those substances.

My reasons are that the quality of my day to day is better! By doing the same you won’t get as many health issues later in life. When you do get to your retirement at least you’ll have the capacity to do something with the precious time that is now yours!

2. Hop to it! – Regular exercise

I mentioned this to someone today and the simplest way of doing this is finding a physical activity that you love doing and you’ll have absolutely no problem keeping it up! I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again generally speaking if I have a choice between a hot date and badminton, 9 times out of 10 I’ll choose badminton! :lol:

When you have that much passion for something you don’t need any motivation to keep it up. You’ll actually just keep it up because you love doing it so much! The challenge is finding something you love doing. Maybe I’m just privileged to have found something that I love but I don’t believe that’s the case! I know there’s something out there for everyone and you’re only task is to find it and then you’ll be home free!

I think the theme song from Rocky V sums it up best “GO FOR IT” for what could be simpler than that! You’ll never know if you like something or not unless you try!

3. Bottoms up! – Drinking water.

Some years ago I never used to drink a drop of water and because of that I developed many health issues. The problem was that I didn’t like the taste of water and you may feel the same way. I had to force myself to get into the habit and now I love it! Again there’s an easy way of doing this and that is to get yourself to a point where you’re feeling a little bit thirsty everyday by doing mild exercise and then quenching it with water only.

Once you get into the habit you’ll have no problem keeping it up! Remember that all you need is 1 – 2 litres a day. On days when you’ve exercised you’ll have no problem having the 2 litres but on days where you don’t exercise I suggest doing some mild activity like running up the stairs a few times and you’ll generate enough of a thirst to want water.

Here’s a little NLP trick you can do: Imagine that you’ve been walking in a baking desert for hours and you are completely parched!! You come across an ice cold glass of water and the glass is covered and dripping with delicious condensation. You pick up the glass and drink! How refreshing is that!

Since drinking water regularly my health has improved so much and I find that I’m able to focus for much longer, sleep less, and have much more energy and greater zest for life!

Soul

1. The power of gratitude or love

You won’t get anything more in life unless you’re grateful what you have now. Some people absolutely loved ‘The Secret’ and other people hated it and criticised it with a vengeance! Whether you loved or hated it, whether you believe in the science behind ‘the law of attraction’ or not, there was an amazing bit of truth in that DVD and that is the power of gratitude or love. Yes, the two are synonymous!

It boils down to how you choose to see things and what questions you ask yourself. If you ask yourself: “What am I grateful for right now?” you’ll realise over time that there is so much within your life to be grateful for. When you feel gratitude you suddenly feel lighter, much happier and much much more fulfilled in life. Suddenly you won’t need something outside of yourself to make you happy.

Every day, just for a few minutes, make some time and be grateful for the wonderful things in your life.

2. Tapping into the inner creative genius

Everyone has a creative genius within and no one could ever convince me otherwise of this! If you haven’t discovered your own it’s time to let it emerge! One key to letting it out is using meditation. The trouble with meditation is that most people believe they need a special time and place to do it. You can do it sitting at your office desk, on the train or in bed.

Anyone can meditate and I promise you this; whether you realise it or not, you’ve already done it! Have you ever had one of those moments where you drift off into thought or zone out or daydream? You were meditating! You were doing it in a very unconscious way and so the trick is to learn to do it at will rather than just at haphazard times.

Find some quiet time where you can tap into this inner source of gems and you’ll be amazed at the phenomenal ideas you’ll come up with!

3. The power of being in this moment right now!

This last one is probably the most important one of all. I know you’ve heard the saying that life is a journey, not a destination. I want you really think about what that means for you. I’ll tell you what it means to me and it’s quite simple. This moment is the most important moment of your life. What you decide to do right now is more important than anything else at all. For me, the most important thing you can do in this moment, is be completely present within it. This is truly an art form and once you get the hang of this you’ll know exactly what I mean.

There is something so powerful about being present in this moment that really nothing else comes close. Of course, you have to choose to do it first. Once you’ve decided to do it become aware of your body. Become aware, for example, that right now your heart is pumping keeping you alive and say thank you for that. Switch onto the beauty of this moment. Any given moment is a universe of possibility.

This is just the starting point and then as you practice and get better you’ll think of new things and ways of being in the present.

Any time you feel lost or without purpose always just do this one step and I promise you it will get you back on track.

I’ve just scratched the surface and there is much more to come. Start putting into action some of the things I’ve mentioned and watch your life transform.

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{ 19 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Kavita

Heavenly Read!

Amit, true gems of wisdom in there. I havn’t read all of it, but have read bits of it and totally love it.

In reference to your NLP/Life coach training – i guess the lecturers are capturing as many learning styles as they can to cover the material they want to cover. To be honest most lecturers pad information which isint nessessary….i have to endure that ever monday at my masters lectures!!! hehe he! I totally agree that the real learning is not in the ‘classroom’, its actually being out there and expereincing. I think maybe you found the lectures a bit padded out cuz you already have a wealth of knowledge and expereince already.

I’ve always found the concept of teaching individuals on how to be a life coach a very odd thing!

Anyway, as for the rest of your article – its all amaxing stuff. i will b printing it out for work!

have to go nnkkkkkkkkkkkkkk kpkm (thats from simba) he he xxxx

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2 Amit Sodha

I’m so glad you found it useful Kavi! You are a star!! :-)

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4 Amit Sodha

Thanks Andrew and I appreciate you saying so.

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5 Dan Garner

“Sometimes people are afraid of making the wrong choice or decision and I tell you there is no such thing. ”

Good decisions are generally a chain of events, not an isolated one. Once we make a decision then we have to keep making decisions that make our plan work. Going to college isn’t a good or bad decision on it’s own. You have to do something with it for it to be a good idea.

Dan @ Zen Presence
New at Dan Garner\’s blog post ..Stepping forth

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6 Amit Sodha

Hey Dan, your comment reminds me of that saying by Rita Mae Brown – “Good judgement comes from experience, and often experience comes from bad judgement.”

Even if you make a bad call or choice, it just tots up your experience. :-)

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7 skittles234

powerful article! love it! btw why didn’t u like the taste of water? it’s the best thing ever! :D

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8 Amit Sodha

Because I was too used to having sugary drinks. I’m glad I kicked that habit! :-D

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9 Ben

It’s so true about having a course pump you up for a few days but that most people don’t take action. That was my problem for so long.

Now i’m finally taking consistent action and while it’s taking longer to get where I want to be than I had hoped, I am making progress and I am happy with what i’m doing much more than before.

-Ben
New at Ben\’s blog post ..What is your path?

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10 Amit Sodha

Hey Ben, great to hear from you and nice to know you can relate the seminar junkie syndrome. ;-)

A

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11 Amit Sodha

What I meant to say was nice to know that you know what I’m talking about and that you’ve moved on from that. ;-)

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12 Roman Soluk

Thanks Amit for such a detailed post. Really helpful tips.

As to the regular exercises, they are very useful indeed but I can keep doing them. I give up all the time…
New at Roman Soluk\’s blog post ..Personal Development is a Lifelong Goal

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13 Amit Sodha

Hey Roman, any specific exercise you were referring too?

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14 Roman Soluk

Nothing specific. I’ve tried different exercises just to keep fit. But I give up all the time.
But, now I haven’t done anything for a few months already, though thinking of starting again.
New at Roman Soluk\’s blog post ..Personal Development is a Lifelong Goal

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15 Jane Powell

So true about getting exercise by doing something you love! I love walking, and do it daily, but lots of people criticize me because it’s not intense enough. The thing is- I do it everyday, and I love it! Why do something more intense, that I hate, and end up not doing?? Great blog- I’ll be following you!

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16 Amit Sodha

Well said and absolutely, doing something you don’t enjoy leads to most people inevitably giving it up. I’d hate to do something I don’t enjoy.

Thank you for your kind words and looking forward to speaking with you more in the future! :-)

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17 Kevin

Being in a present moment, it’s good that you talk about it since really is so important. Specially if confidence and free mind is what you aim for. Well written, love your style. :)
New at Kevin\’s blog post ..The Tao Of Badass – Dating Advice Book For Men

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18 Amit Sodha

Much appreciated Kevin! :-)

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19 duker

Wow it’s wonderful to see so many other people practicing personal development as well! Best of luck to everyone else following a similar path! Excellent article I loved it.

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