I like the term you’ve used; “Self imposed ceilings” I think that pretty much hit the nail on the head. People just aren’t questioning as much as they can do what the true meaning of destiny is!

Thank you michelle!

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Sometimes I think people confuse destiny with identity. What you are (destiny) can be very different from who you are (identity) but people often don’t see it that way.

However, can your perception of your destiny hold you back? Yes, absolutely. A person who says, “I’m destined to fail at this” will fail just as surely as a person who says, “I’m destined to succeed” will succeed. In that way, a person can certainly cap his/her destiny and hold him/herself back.

Is there an upper limit to achievement? Only if one sets caps on oneself.

Also, no, I do not believe there is a Grand Taylor out there somewhere weaving us all together to create a Grand Design. I believe in energy, and that we ourselves, on an unconscious collective scale, are one being that lets us know what is needed through dreams or intuition, and we fill the order.

Say there was a person who wanted to be a certain thing….let’s just say a magnificent chef in a fabulous restaurant. It’s not earth-chattering like a president, but hey, people do eat and enjoy eating well! A really great chef brings a lot of pleasure to people! (and, hopefully, nutrition…)

Anyway, say this person Wants to do that, but pursues a different life because there is more money or fame or whatever in that other direction. He may even be fairly successful in that other direction, but his “destiny” – what the universe needed him to do – he never did. He mad a choice to not follow his destiny, and a hole has been left in the fabric of the collective energy web because a great chef was need but never arrived.

If he had followed his destiny (dreams, intuition) he would have fulfilled it, but of course there are always choices and decisions. Would he have been fulfilled if he had stayed in one large city, or one country, or would he have done even better by going to other countries and becoming internationally known as a great chef??

No way to tell, but that would have been his choice.

If he was perfectly happy and satisfied staying in one place, good for him. If he wanted to go further, good for him, too.

I think we have to be careful about some things. People have to know the difference between choosing to be where they are and thinking that they can’t go further because some invisible ceiling is holding them back.

In that way, I believe we choose our destiny…if a person is happy and fulfilled doing what she’s doing right where she is, great. If she isn’t, then she has to realize that there are ways around that problem. I don’t believe it is anyone’s “destiny” to be stuck, and that wanting something seemingly outside your grasp is something you should forget as a “pipe dream” because it will “never happen.”

However, I can say that as a woman in a male-dominated society, there are a lot of places that are just now opening up to women, especially related to career. 100 years ago, women were not accepted into medical colleges. Women weren’t in the board rooms of mega-corporations, women didn’t hold high government offices.

It was never a woman’s “destiny” to be stonewalled like that, but progress has been made slowly at best. 100 years ago the medical community still believed women’s brains were inferior to mens’ and women were too fragile to do the work of a CEO or Senator or whatever.

So, I think we have to be careful and realize that there are ceilings which need to be broken through, just make sure we don’t fall into the “destiny” trap and make them Self-Imposed ceilings.