Before you begin reading this article, I wanted to emphasize just how much this one slight shift in my mindset has changed my life over the past few months.
I literally mean it when I say that miracles will begin to happen when you adopt this strategy and way of thinking.
When I say miracles, I’m not talking about mystical stuff, I’m talking about real tangible results you will see happen, first hand, in your life.
Welcome to the power of being centered.
Before continuing, put aside any notion of identity, religion, caste, beliefs etc, and follow these words without any preconceived ideas. Why? Because this concept is beyond any religious identity. It’s for anyone and everyone to try.
What is being centered?
The concept of being centered is nothing new by any means. However it’s still a little known idea that very few people practice.
Imagine a tightrope walker, walking along her tightrope. She has one of those poles to keep her balance. The pole tips to one side, and she along with it. Somehow she manages to recover. She uses the balance pole to regain her composure and return to the perfect place to navigate the tightrope.
Centering is finding that space in the middle between hope and disappointment, between happiness and sadness, between desire and apathy, between good and bad and using the right kind of thoughts that help you stay remain in that special sanctuary of equilibrium.
It’s about finding an incredibly serene balance. Believe me when I say, that when you find that place, you’ll feel so at peace, calm and relaxed, that very little, if anything, will be able to phase you.
Being centered is about understanding that every event is a combination of good and bad. It’s about aligning with part of your being that is beyond temporary elation or feeling down, or being phased by others positivity or negativity.
Positivity and negativity
I’ve never really subscribed to the notion of being positive over negative, or that being positive is any better than being negative, or that you have to have a PMA.
Positive and negative are two sides of the same coin. I’ve known positive people who show people on the outside how positive they are, but when you take a closer look, you see just how much they are suffering because they surpress their negativity.
Being centered is what I call it a heavenly state of mind.
It’s not about forcing your mind into that balance, but about un-sticking your mind from past events or future results. (And vice-versa.)
I’m not an expert at this, it’s just something which I’ve been experimenting with and I’ve been amazed at the results I’ve been getting. I temporarily got excited about those results; and then I’d center myself again!
Since experimenting with this:
- I’ve become more focused.
- I am more relaxed than I’ve ever been.
- I’ve stopped chasing things, things are chasing me.
- People have begun treating me differently, for the better.
- I’ve attracted things and circumstances more easily.
- I’m more in tune with what I really want.
- I sleep much more soundly.
- I’ve lost weight.
- My non conformity makes people more attracted to me.
You will be astounded at the results you get when you center yourself. The things that you want to happen will begin to happen so effortlessly.
Centering is finding that space in the middle between hope and disappointment, between happiness and sadness, between desire and apathy, between good and bad and using specific kinds of thoughts that keep you there.
The objective is not to straddle the fence, or be indifferent to everything, but to live in the equilibrium. It also does not mean that you do not have an opinion or speak out, it’s about being centered when you do it.
How do you center yourself?
I will be expanding on this topic greatly over the coming months but I wanted to throw a few simple things your way that you can try to become.
I already spoke about the balance of being mindful and yet still have desires and goals. Being centered in that case is about being present whilst having your desires and creating.
Like anything else, mastery of this won’t come overnight but I suggest a few simple thoughts to practice daily to help you find the centered equilibrium.
To begin with, try using these four simple words to precede your basic goals and desires: ‘No matter the outcome’
A very simple example, imagine you were going for a job interview, before you step in the room, center yourself by saying to yourself ‘no matter the outcome, I will remain centered.
Keep that feeling going; hold onto that idea before, during and after the event. Stay in that place where the outcome will do very little to affect your state of mind.
Also try this very simple idea of reminding yourself ‘stay centered’ and practice it regularly. Keep saying it to yourself over and over again.
It will help you remain poised in the most difficult or awkward situations.
Something to note; you cannot cheat at this. If you just think these thoughts but deep down you truly feel apprehension or anxiety, you won’t really get anything out of it. But if those thoughts guide you into a place of feeling in equilibrium then you will observe remarkable results. When they do, the trick is to remain centered.
Try this the next time you feel stressed out about work, or the next time you have a fight with your kids, or the next time you get road rage (like I often do).
Once you’ve tried it for a few days, report back, let me know how you feel what impact, if any, it has had.