‘It wasn’t meant to be’ is the most soul destroying statement I have ever heard! I hear this statement from people over and over again and they often use it with regards to any situation that has not gone the way they had planned or hoped. They put it down to some superior force controlling their lives not allowing them to experience themselves as the glorious creators that they are.
Someone said this to me recently regarding a relationship, another friend used this statement when they didn’t get the job that they really wanted.
The truth is, the statement itself is absolutely true, but the way in which it is used to determine future events is disturbing. The way I think about it is; only past events are destiny, everything present and future is my choice and creation. The trouble begins when people start using that statement before and event has even happened. The problem is to continue using that statement is a submission that everything is out of our control when, in fact, we have control over our actions at every given moment. We also have the power to create our realities as we choose, we have influence over matter and energy and it is that influence that creates.
Every PRESENT moment represents and infinite number of possibilities. We use our power of choice to determine which of those possibilities we opt for. If I see the woman of my dreams walking by me on the street, I have a choice, I can either walk over to her and say hello or I can just let her walk by without taking any action. Now of course, there is a good chance that she may think I’m a complete weirdo approaching her at random, but what the heck, I may never see her again, so I’ll take a shot at it and make the most of it, because it’s my attitude and my conviction that determines the flow of the situation.
The other issue with that kind of statement is that the underlying thought is that there is a Godly force of sorts that is sitting “up there” deciding what is best for me even if it’s something I don’t like. Can you see the trouble with the thought like that? If I go for a job interview, with the thought: “If it’s meant to be I’ll get this job, If I don’t get it, it just means that it wasn’t meant to be.” What’s wrong with that picture? Quite simply I won’t be getting that job because my heart is just not there with my head. Why should I even try and looking for a job at all, God is going to decide what’s best for me, so God will deliver to my door the job s/he intends for me?
If you ever catch yourself in the act, of having that thought, gently say to yourself: “Whatever has happened, is of my choosing. I have the power to choose and create my present and future as I wish it to be. Only past events were meant to be, but were so through my own volition. Each moment is a glorious opportunity to re-create my life as I choose it to be now!”
It’s always a choice, and I always say; The only way to know, is to try for yourself! 😉