It’s been 6 years since I started this blog which, so far, has over 570 articles.
It’s not all been smooth sailing but I’ve kept it going for the sheer love of blogging.
Just like anything I do in life, I do it because I enjoy doing it. Part and parcel of doing what you love is rejection.
Over the past two years I’ve been rejected more times than I can count. (Maybe that’s why I’ve been getting rejected; poor maths skills! )
I’ve been rejected for jobs, clients, auditions, guest posts, women…we won’t go too deep into that last one but the simple truth is, rejections suck!
When you get rejected it can feel like having your heart yanked out of your chest! (Kali Ma…shakti deh!)
The first is the worst
The first time you get rejected it will feel like the end of the world. You’ll want to give up and bury your head somewhere. No one could blame you; that feeling is awful! You’d be an idiot to want to go through that again, right?
Well, no! The same reason for not going through it again is exactly the reason you should. Yes, you could well be rejected again and it will still hurt but, it’ll hurt a little less. The next time after that it will hurt a little less too.
It’ll hurt less and each time you get rejected and the chances of getting rejected again reduces ever so slightly.
I call that the law of diminishing rejections. It also means that each time you increase your chance of success.
Remember: – The next time could always be YOUR time. If you don’t take that step, you’ll live your life never knowing what might have been.
Here’s a thought I want you to recap the next time you get rejected:
Rejection is preparation
Every time you’re rejected it will prepare you better for the next time. Firstly, You won’t fear the rejection as much so you’ll feel more relaxed and your performance will be proportionately better.
Secondly, the natural reaction to rejection is evaluation. Once you’ve been rejected your natural instinct will be to question why. The result will be that you’ll probably go away and make some changes to hopefully be better the next time.
If you get rejected for a job, make sure you get feedback and find out why you got rejected. The same principle applies if you get rejected for a guest post or an audition.
Even if you don’t get any feedback, the sheer act of persistence will make you a better person. The fact you go back regardless of setbacks puts you in a league of your own. It’s takes a special kind of person to return once they’ve been rejected.
Many people who are well known today received several rejections before they finally made it big. There’s even a book called Rotten Rejections full of rejections that writers, who are now famous or who wrote classics, received.
Yes, rejections totally suck at the time but you still have to keep one eye on your ultimate outcome.
If you still feel a bit down I want you to remember the kind of satisfaction you will feel when you get that first yes. It will be the sweetest feeling that can you possibly imagine. The ultimate prize will be success but that feeling will be like an early Christmas bonus.
The best revenge is success.