Over the past year it’s been difficult for me to be in a position to inspire others, which is a passion I have, when so much has been going on in my world. Hence the reason I’ve not been writing as much.
It’s not just been the past year; it’s the last 6 years. I wrote a while back about some of the things that I’d been through, but since then my mum passed away; my uncle passed away, and most recently, my relationship with my fiancée ended.
Although it ended on good terms, it’s always difficult when a person who’s been a huge part of your life for nearly 3 years, is no longer there any more.
As difficult as this journey has been, my desire to do service has not waned. In fact, in has increased.
Every time I face a fresh challenge I remind myself that those challenging live events serve no other purpose than preparation and to build resiliency
Every time I’ve been knocked down, I’ve got back up much stronger than ever before. Not always immediately of course, but ultimately, the event has meant that I’ve had to grow and learn at a faster rate. Admittedly, I don’t always understand the lessons the first time around, but I do get there eventually.
Every single one of those events has armoured me and not only prepared me for the future, but it has also meant that I’ve been in a position more able to help those in need too.
Resiliency is not about being a punching bag and just taking everything that comes your way. True resilience is absorbing the event from every angle. Acknowledging the good, the bad and everything in between. It’s about not being afraid of the pain that comes with it. It’s about knowing it’s not about if these events happen, but when and then having a plan of how to deal with them; hence the saying ‘luck favours the prepared’.
Ultimately, this blog is not about me, it’s about you. I’ve always endeavoured to share anything I’ve learned so that it may one day help you.
In times of need, I’m hoping you remember some of these words so that they aid you in journey, particularly when your journey is at it’s toughest.
So with that in mind I want to share with you, in a few short points, everything I’ve learned over that last 6 years and then some. Remember these – they will help you through the tough times, and will even re-enforce your experiences during the good times.
- As the picture above shows, take out that single rock, and the rest will fall. Instead of that build a solid foundation. Build a package of innate qualities that binds it all together.
- No matter what event occurs in your life, be it the death of a loved one, the end of relationship – each and every one of those events was tailored to your personal journey in some way. It was there because that experience had something to give you – a hidden gift.
- Pain isn’t permanent. It will last as long as you attach some kind of meaning to it and for as long as you allow that event to define you. No event has any meaning except the meaning you choose to give it.
- Be thankful for every experience – both the good and bad, because they are there to give you something you need. Each event is fulfilling a need in your soul.
- When things are at their worst – laugh! When my sister passed away – I discovered ‘Ahchmed the dead terrorist!’. When The missus and I split recently this video of Sadie hoping hoping her brother doesn’t grow up, had me laughing so hard I had a belly ache! – There’s always a reason to laugh!
Remember these words. They will be your friends in challenging times.