What Your Self-Care Practice Is Saying About You And How You Can Change It

by Amit Sodha

in Empowerment

Self Image

Editors Note: This is a fantastic guest post by Anne-Sophie Reinhardt of a Mind Media

Self-care is the most honest revelation of your soul.

It’s a sure-fire sign of how much you love yourself and how serious you take your emotional and physical health.

The practice of self-care is a healthy dose of self-awareness paired with a lot of wisdom about your own well-being and that of others.

If that self-awareness is missing, we’ve got some work to do, as this’ll affect all areas of your life in a negative way.

But the cool thing is that becoming aware of what you’re missing out on is the first step towards gaining the freedom to love yourself.

Let’s get a glimpse of what is really going on inside of you. Ready?

1. Do you love yourself?

Your (lack of a) self-care routine is a true testimony of how much you love and value yourself. If you don’t practice self-care, you don’t believe you’re worthy and deserving of loving and being loved.

This makes sure that you don’t know yourself enough and therefor can’t connect with your innermost thoughts and feelings, which leads to a deep void inside.

Self-care tip: Tell yourself that you love yourself every single day at least once. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, that you matter and that you’re worthy. The more often you repeat these words the better and the more positive and self-affirming your thoughts will be.

2. How healthy is your mind?

Self-care plays a crucial part in being emotionally healthy. I should know since I suffered from an eating disordered for years, which coincided with a huge lack of taking care of myself. If you don’t give yourself the attention you deserve you can not only become mentally ill, but you can and will build up a lot of anger and resentment, which is toxic for your soul.

Self-care tip: Build a daily habit of self-care practices by finding out what it is you truly enjoy. Do you like to read, journal, meditate or practice mindfulness? Do you enjoy puzzling, cleaning your home or taking a long, soothing bath? Experiment a bit and use the results to introduce a dose of self-care into your every day.

3. How do you treat your body?

If you reject self-care, you’ll most likely neglect exercise and healthy eating. Being physically healthy is a big part of your overall health and can never be separated to how you feel about yourself and your life. If you neglect your body, you neglect your soul. If you neglect your soul, you neglect your body.

Self-care tip: Treat your body’s senses to delicious, whole and, if possible, unprocessed, organic food. You’ll see how rejuvenated your body will feel and how clear your mind will be.

4. Are you courageous?

To be honest, it takes a lot of courage to take good care of yourself and to put yourself first every now and then. Unfortunately, we live in a society that doesn’t really accept self-care as something positive and rather labels it as selfish and arrogant. But if you’re courageous enough to realize that you’re important too and that your needs matter too, everyone will benefit.

Self-care tip: Practice saying no. Start small by declining a cup of coffee if you don’t want to and then move on to bigger things. Be gentle with yourself and see how you feel. Do you feel empowered? Scared? Guilty? Try to accept and embrace those feelings as part of the journey to a more empowered and loved you.

Also, don’t shy away from saying no to others or even alienating them. If they can’t accept that you love yourself, they’re not worthy of being in your life.

5. What about your priorities?

If your life is void of self-care, your priorities are clearly out of whack. You put others before you all the time. You value their needs over yours, you value their time over yours and you value their life over your very own.

If you were serious about yourself, your health and your life, you’d create a balance of work and play. You’d have time for self-care. You’d have time for more than earning money and taking care of others. You’d have time to breathe.

Self-care tip: Create a consistent exercise routine that invigorates you, keeps you healthy and energized. Think of something that you love, whether that is yoga, Zumba, weightlifting or kickboxing. Don’t force yourself to go to a daily workout that you despise though as this goes contrary to what self-care is all about. Choose a workout that is fun and you’ll never want to do without it again.

Learning to love yourself and take good care with yourself is a journey, a beautiful way of discovering who you truly are. Start today by choosing just one of the tips above. You won’t regret it. That’s a promise.

On to you! Where have you noticed a lack of self-care in your life and how have you turned it around?

Anne-Sophie Reinhardt is an anorexia survivor, self-love advocate, body image expert and the owner of aMINDmedia. She’s the author of The Ultimate Guide to a Healthy Body Image and empowers you to fall in love with yourself and your body. One loving step at a time.

{ 10 comments… read them below or add one }

1 Amit Sodha

Hi Anne-Sophie,

Thank you so much for the inspired article. This couldn’t have come at a better time as I’ve been thinking a lot recently about self value and self worth.

So often we give so much of our time, energy and attention to others but rarely do we afford ourselves the same courtesy.

I often say to people, ‘okay, so you schedule everything else into your diary, how about scheduling in some time which is yours? Time which you set aside just for yourself.’

It’s so important that we show ourselves the same kind of value, or even greater, that we place on other people or things which do not matter as much. :-)

Thank you again for the awesome submission.


2 Anne-Sophie

Amit, thank you a lot for sharing your platform with me.

It’s so very true what you say. We tend to put everything and everybody above our own needs because it makes us feel good and it’s just the “right” thing to do, right? Well, I think that giving yourself the attention and time you deserve serves everybody.

I can’t wait to see how your journey continues, Amit. Hope you’ll share it here.
New at Anne-Sophie\’s blog post ..Crushing Procrastination


3 Amit Sodha

You’re very welcome Anne and you said it when you said it serves everybody. That is so true, if I do not help myself, how can I then expect to truly help or serve anyone else. :-)


4 Siddhartha Bordoloi

Nice Article. each and every word of this article is precious. What is needed on our part as readers and learners is to execute the insights pronounced by the writer. Anyway, thanks a million for such a beautiful content.


5 Amit Sodha

Thank you so much for the very kind words Siddhartha, they are much appreciated. :-)


6 Anne-Sophie

You’re too kind! I’m happy to hear that you liked the article. Couldn’t agree more when it comes to action. I believe that this is what separates those who truly love themselves from those who never will: the simple act of taking action. One step at a time is all it takes to make drastic changes in your overall well-being.
New at Anne-Sophie\’s blog post ..Crushing Procrastination


7 youcanbhappy

I have always made it a priority to care for myself. I have done this through fitness. Some would applaud my efforts at self care, and some would criticize me for taking time out during the day, when they felt I should be doing OTHER THINGS than to exercise. I finally decided that life is short, and I am no good to anyone else if I don’t take care of myself first. It’s like when you get on a plane and they tell you to put on your oxygen mask first in the event of a crash.


8 Amit Sodha

“I finally decided that life is short, and I am no good to anyone else if I don’t take care of myself first.” – Very true and I live by that same mindset. That’s why it’s good to be selfish in the right way. Thank you so much forthe comment and god bless.


9 Roman Soluk

A great list of great questions to ask yourself! I really enjoyed the post! Thanks a lot!
New at Roman Soluk\’s blog post ..Tips to Improve Husband-Wife Relationship with New Baby


10 Amit Sodha

Thank you so much Roman :-)


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